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February 5, 2025 6 Compassionate Leadership Actions

I am a big proponent of heart-led leadership. So many leadership courses, books, and webinars teach us that leaders have to be firm, competent, excellent communicators, and assertive. While those traits can be helpful in leadership, I would put a different trait above them: compassion.

When people think about compassion and kindness in leadership, they may think that means the leader is soft or a “pushover.” In my experience, however, kindness does not automatically mean weakness. It is very possible to be both kind and assertive. It is possible to genuinely care about your people and create firm boundaries and expectations.

Instead of a weakness, I see kindness as a superpower. When you take the time to truly get to know your people, listen to them, and offer genuine compassion and respect, you foster a positive work environment where people want to show up and do good work. When people feel that they are part of a caring team, they will want to put their best foot forward, meet deadlines, and perform at their peak. They’re motivated to do better, because they know the company’s leadership has a vested interest in them and their success.

To establish yourself as a kind, caring leader, you can begin by taking a few action steps that convey your heart-led leadership style. Here are 6 suggestions:

Schedule One-on-Ones

Even busy leaders can find fifteen or twenty minutes to meet one-on-one with a team member. Taking the time to check in with someone individually will not only convey that you care, but will also provide some valuable time for you to get to know the person across the table on a personal level. This can be difficult to achieve in group settings, especially if the person is not terribly open or outspoken.

Get to Know Your People

When engaging in one-on-ones, it’s a good idea to ask a few “get to know you” questions. Start learning about your team members’ backgrounds, families, pets, and interests, and be sure to touch on these things in subsequent meetings (“How is your mom? Is she feeling any better since her accident?”). If you need help remembering details about others, try creating a spreadsheet dedicated to tracking information about each team member—the name of their kids, the type of dog they have, etc. Few people have a perfect memory, and there’s no shame in using a tool to help yourself out.

Open Up

When you’re getting to know others, it is important to reciprocate. Any relationship, including work relationships, are healthiest when they are a two-way street. Offer information about yourself when it seems relevant and appropriate. For example, if your team member is talking about an upcoming vacation, you might tell them a little about your experience visiting that area, or you could talk about your own upcoming trip.

Ask Good Questions (and Listen!)

Asking good questions is an art. When sitting down with someone, it’s important to not just talk at them or ask yes/no questions. Instead, ask open-ended questions that prompt a dialogue. These types of questions can help you get to know the other person and will help you gauge the temperature of the workplace (Are tempers hot? Has enthusiasm for a project or client cooled?).

But asking questions isn’t enough. It is also critical to listen to the answers and attempt to understand the other person’s perspective. If you’re unsure about what someone is saying, or you need more details, be sure to ask follow-up questions. Alternatively, you could repeat back what you think you heard by saying, “It sounds like you’re saying XYZ, is that correct?”

Show Genuine Appreciation

Pay attention to your people and show them appreciation whenever they go above and beyond. Call out outstanding performance, recognize achievements, or write out a thank you card. These small acts can make an enormous difference.

Take Action to Improve the Workplace

When sitting down with your people, you might discover that they are unhappy with certain aspects of the workplace. If that’s the case, it is imperative to take steps to create change. You don’t want to be the type of person who is all talk and no action. Rather, if you are genuinely committed to being a positive presence, that means taking meaningful action to improve the workplace and the lives of the people who work for you.

Kindness and compassion are not incompatible with strong leadership. Rather, it can help improve morality, foster a better work environment, and create an energized atmosphere in the office. How might the modern workplace transform if all leaders chose to be kind?

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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September 11, 2024 How to Make Feedback Feel Empowering

As a leader, a work colleague, or a member of any kind of team or committee, feedback is essential. It is not helpful to let bad behavior, misguided ideas, or poor performance slip through the cracks. Providing constructive feedback is a key part of helping people improve and grow. However, it’s important to deliver that feedback in a way that feels empowering rather than demoralizing.

How can you achieve this balancing act? How can you motivate others, rather than make them feel frustrated or annoyed? I suggest the following:

Be Specific

Focusing on specific areas of improvement and providing ideas for achieving those improvements is crucial for making feedback feel empowering. Vague or generalized feedback can leave the recipient feeling confused or uncertain about what they need to do. Be clear and direct about the behaviors or outcomes you want to see changed or improved.

Mix the Good and Bad

It is just as helpful to let people know what they are doing well as it is to identify areas for improvement. Providing a balanced perspective shows that you recognize their strengths and are not just focusing on the negatives. This can make the feedback feel more constructive and less like a personal attack.

Some people use the “feedback sandwich” approach, where you first provide positive feedback, then the constructive criticism, and then end with more positive feedback. This can help the recipient feel validated and motivated to improve, but make sure you’re not sounding too scripted when offering this type of feedback.

Offer Suggestions

In addition to identifying specific areas for improvement, offer concrete suggestions for how the person can make those changes. Provide resources, examples, or step-by-step guidance to help them understand what they need to do differently. These actionable steps (as opposed to vague ideas) can help provide a clear plan of action.

Convey Your Confidence in the Other Person

Author and researcher, Daniel Pink, says that when we give feedback it is important to convey our confidence in the other person’s abilities. When we demonstrate our unwavering belief in another, this serves to bolster and support that person, rather than make them feel badly about themselves. He suggests saying, “I’m giving you these comments because I have very high expectations and I know that you can reach them.” This simple sentence conveys your faith in the person’s potential and your desire to help them improve.

Define Goals and Expectations

Clearly defined goals are crucial if you want your feedback to make an impact. Outline specific, measurable objectives that the recipient can work towards. This gives them a clear path forward and a sense of purpose. Additionally, be transparent about your expectations so there is no confusion about the desired outcomes. When people understand exactly what is expected of them, they are more likely to feel motivated to make the necessary improvements.

Ultimately, the goal of feedback is to help people grow and develop, not to criticize or put them down. By framing feedback in a positive, constructive manner, you can make others feel empowered rather than sullen or demoralized. This approach demonstrates your investment in the person’s success and your belief in their potential to improve. With the right mindset and delivery, feedback can become an invaluable tool for development.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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June 19, 2024 5 Ways to Banish Laziness and Energize Your Team

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Let me establish right away that I am fully supportive of a healthy balance between life and work. If you wear yourself too thin, you’ll eventually become exhausted, resentful, and unable to operate at full capacity. This doesn’t serve you or your workplace. However, there is a big difference between striving for balance and refusing to work or rise to the challenge.

Encouraging your team to embrace productivity and creativity doesn’t mean you expect them to work nonstop. Instead, it’s about fostering a culture where everyone feels motivated to contribute their best. As a leader, you can help to motivate and empower your team, while also banishing laziness and procrastination.

Here are 5 strategies to energize your team:

Set Clear Expectations

If a team does not know where they are heading or unsure of their responsibilities, they might start to feel directionless and frustrated. This can lead to uncertainty and a decrease in productivity. By setting clear expectations for your team, you provide them with a roadmap for success. Make sure everyone understands their roles and responsibilities, as well as the team’s goals and objectives. Clear communication and transparency are key to keeping everyone on track and motivated. When team members know what is expected of them, they are more likely to stay focused and engaged in their work.

Provide Support

As a leader, it is crucial to offer your team members the support, encouragement, and resources they need. This might mean guiding them through challenges, offering training opportunities, or simply being there to listen when they need advice. It could also mean connecting them with mentoring opportunities. A supported team is often a productive team.

Create a Culture of Accountability

If too many deadlines slide, or too many projects are allowed to be subpar, this can send a signal that mediocrity is acceptable. On the other hand, when team members are held accountable for their work and deadlines, it fosters a culture of responsibility and excellence. Encouraging a sense of ownership for individual and team outcomes can drive motivation and productivity. By setting clear standards and expectations, and regularly reviewing progress, you empower your team to take ownership of their work and strive for continuous improvement.

Check In

Regularly checking in with your team members will ensure they have what they need to excel in their roles and feel supported in their work environment. It also allows you a chance to find out what’s working, what’s not, and what they might need to overcome any obstacles. By checking in regularly, you demonstrate your commitment to their success and well-being. This practice also fosters open communication and trust within the team. Furthermore, it allows for adjustments to be made promptly if necessary, ensuring that the team stays on track towards achieving its goals.

Genuinely Care

Seeing the human side of people is an essential way to foster a positive work environment. Show genuine care for your team members by acknowledging their efforts, celebrating their successes, and supporting them during challenging times. Building strong relationships based on care and empathy can significantly boost morale and motivation within the team. Be mindful of their well-being and always be ready to offer a listening ear or lend a helping hand. Your team will appreciate your genuine concern and reciprocate it with increased dedication and loyalty.

As a leader, it’s essential to set clear expectations, provide support, and recognize efforts. By banishing laziness and energizing your team, you create a positive environment that fuels growth and success. And remember to lead by example by demonstrating a strong work ethic to inspire your team to perform at their best.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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