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June 24, 2026 Saying “No” at Work (3 Scenarios)

It’s easy to say yes. We naturally aim to please our co-workers and supervisors; we want to look good in the eyes of the company and get that raise or earn that promotion. But saying yes can be dangerous. If you say yes to everything—every assignment, every request, every invitation—you’ll end up stretching yourself too thin and you’ll possibly end up taking on work that isn’t in your sweet spot or doing things that go against your code of ethics.

Though I’m a proponent of trying new things and being agreeable, there are times when it is in your best interest to give a firm N-O. Here are three scenarios where saying “No” is the best course of action (accompanied by three strategies to pull it off):

1. You have too much on your plate.

If you feel your workload growing out of control and can tell the quality of your work is sharply declining, it’s time to say no. How to do it? The next time your project leader tries to assign you something new, do not immediately say yes. Arrange to meet one-on-one (it is much easier to reason with someone one-on-one than in a group) and lay out your reasons for not wanting to take on the project.

Be prepared. Make a spreadsheet that clearly displays the projects you are currently tackling and how much time you spend each day on each project. Also, come into the meeting with a counter-proposal in mind. If you know of someone else who might have the capacity (and desire) to take on the project, suggest that person to your project leader (be sure to get that individual’s approval ahead of time).

Alternatively, you could suggest a future date that would work for you to start the project (i.e. “I’m busy from now until the end of the May, but I could start working on this project in June.”)

2. You are being given work that is not in your “sweet spot.”

This is a tough one, but ultimately, if you are constantly handed work that does not align with your areas of expertise, you are doing both your company and yourself a disservice. Your company won’t receive the best possible work and you’ll be straying from your career goals.

So, how to say no? Again, a one-on-one meeting with your supervisor is helpful in this situation. Explain to her what your ultimate goals are and what kind of projects you prefer. One of the best things you can do in this situation is approach it with confidence and decisiveness. Know where you’d like to be heading and explain, confidently, how you’d like to get there.

Ultimately, if your company is not supportive of your career goals (or if you find that the type of work you do consistently does not align with your sweet spot), it is time to start searching for something new, either inside or outside your current company.

3. Saying yes compromises your values.

There are times when it just does not feel good to say yes. Perhaps you agree to attend a late-night strategy session, knowing that your daughter has a piano recital that night. Or perhaps a co-worker dumps several assignments on your lap that are really her responsibility, not yours. Or maybe you’ve had to sacrifice your health or nightly down-time because of all the projects you’ve agreed to do. Whatever the case, sometimes saying yes is simply not the right decision.

How to say no? First of all, know your priorities. Does your family come first? Your health? Your mental wellbeing? When one of the things that’s important in your life becomes compromised, it’s time to say no. Keep an open line of communication with your boss and let him know when you feel like work is tipping the scales of your work-life balance.

And another thing: think before you say yes. Always take a moment to pause, assess the situation, and make a deliberate decision. If that means waiting a day or two to mull over the pros and cons, so be it. Ultimately, you need to feel good about agreeing to do something before you say “yes.”

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.

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November 20, 2024 The Complexity of the Human Experience (and Insights Discovery)

As a career coach and Licensed Practitioner of Insights® Discovery, I’ve had the privilege of working with individuals from all walks of life. Through that work (and from life experiences, in general), it is clear to me that each person is a unique and complex tapestry, woven with a multitude of “colors” that make up their personality, interests, and ways of thinking.

We rarely fit neatly into a single box or category. Rather, we are dynamic—constantly evolving and adapting to the circumstances and challenges that life presents. One day, we might feel social and outgoing, and the next, we might find ourselves more quiet and introspective.

This diversity within ourselves is a testament to the richness of the human experience. We are not one-dimensional, but rather a kaleidoscope of traits, strengths, and weaknesses that come together to form the individuals we are.

The Insights® Discovery Program and the Color Wheel

As I’ve discussed in past blog posts, the Insights® Discovery program offers a fascinating perspective on this concept of our “many colors.” This program utilizes a color wheel to help individuals better understand their dominant personality preferences and how they interact with others. If you’re unfamiliar with the program, these are the basics:

  • The color wheel is divided into four main quadrants: Sunshine Yellow, Fiery Red, Earth Green, and Cool Blue.
  • Each quadrant represents a distinct set of personality traits and preferences, from the outgoing and enthusiastic Sunshine Yellow to the analytical and reserved Cool Blue.
  • Most people will find that they “lead” with one or two of these colors, which tend to be the most prominent aspects of their personality.

However, the beauty of the Insights® Discovery program lies in its recognition that we are not limited to a single color or way of being. In fact, the program encourages individuals to explore and embrace the other colors on the wheel, as they can provide valuable insights and strategies for navigating different situations and relationships.

Stepping into the “Other” Colors

Let’s say, for example, that you identify primarily as a Sunshine Yellow. This means that you are likely energetic, charismatic, and thrive in social settings. You may be the life of the party, always ready with a joke or a friendly smile.

But what happens when the circumstances call for a more analytical, reserved approach? Perhaps you’re facing a complex problem at work that requires a deeper level of critical thinking and attention to detail. In these moments, it can be incredibly valuable to step into your “blue” side and tap into your ability to be more introspective and methodical.

Similarly, if you lead with Cool Blue, you may find that embracing your “red” side can help you become more assertive and decisive when the situation demands it. Or if you’re an Earth Green, exploring your “yellow” qualities can allow you to be more spontaneous and open to new experiences.

The Beauty of Embracing Your Whole Palette

The key is to recognize that we are not limited to a single color or way of being. By embracing the full spectrum of our “colors,” we open ourselves to a world of possibilities. We become more adaptable, resilient, and better equipped to navigate the ever-changing landscape of our personal and professional lives.

It’s important to remember that this process of self-discovery and growth is not a linear one. We may find ourselves gravitating towards different colors at different times, and that’s perfectly natural. The goal is to become more aware of the full range of our capabilities and to consciously choose the “color” that best serves us in any given moment.

Celebrating Your Unique Complexity

In the end, the beauty of the human experience lies in its complexity. We are not simple, one-dimensional beings, but rather a tapestry of different “colors” that come together to create the unique individuals we are. By embracing and celebrating this complexity, we can unlock new levels of self-awareness, personal growth, and fulfillment.

Let us embrace our many colors and step into the full spectrum of our potential. For it is in this journey of self-discovery that we find the true richness and beauty of the human experience.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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August 21, 2024 How Sitting Still Can Be Productive

We live in a culture that rewards “go getters” and highly motivated people. We expect quick turnarounds and instantaneous results. Because of our fast-paced world, we tend to equate productivity with action. Send off a couple hundred emails, make advances in your project, attend that after-work networking event—all this activity can seem like progress and productivity…but is it?

Sometimes, work for work’s sake can actually be counterproductive. If, for example, you never pause to consider your trajectory, you might inadvertently head in the wrong direction (OR you might neglect to consider an alternative path you could take).

Additionally, if you never take time to rest and recharge, you may end up burning out. We all have a limited capacity in our “personal batteries.” If you’re barreling forward without the occasional pause, you risk depleting those reserves and being unable to perform at your best.

Taking time to sit still, reflect, and recharge can actually make you more productive in the long run. It allows you to gain perspective, identify areas for improvement, and come back to your work with renewed energy and focus. Embracing moments of stillness and contemplation can be a powerful tool for enhancing your productivity and achieving your goals.

Here are a few ideas to help you remember to pause, reflect, and perhaps re-strategize before moving forward:

Schedule Regular Reflection Time

Set aside a recurring block of time, even if it’s just 15-30 minutes, to pause and reflect on your progress, challenges, and next steps. This could be first thing in the morning, during your lunch break, or before bed. Consider jotting your ideas in a notebook or a Google doc.

Practice Mindfulness

Incorporate mindfulness exercises like meditation or deep breathing to help you be present and attentive to your thoughts and feelings. This can provide clarity and perspective.

Seek Outside Perspectives

Talk to a mentor, colleague, or trusted friend about your work. Getting an outside viewpoint can reveal blind spots or uncover new possibilities.

Take Breaks

Regularly step away from your work to give your mind a chance to rest and recharge. Even short breaks to stretch, go for a walk, or engage in a hobby can help you return to your tasks with renewed energy and focus.

Embrace Solitude

Carve out time for solitude, whether it’s a quiet morning routine or an evening without distractions. Use this time to reflect, journal, or simply allow your mind to wander without the pressure of productivity.

By incorporating these practices, you can create space for productive contemplation and self-reflection. This can help you gain clarity, identify areas for growth, and approach your work with renewed purpose and focus. Remember, true productivity is not about constant motion, but about strategically pausing, reflecting, and then taking purposeful action. Embrace the power of stillness to enhance your overall productivity and achieve your goals more effectively.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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