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January 22, 2025 Why Create a “Comfort List”?

Sometimes we simply need a break. However, even when life gets tough, we do not always step back, breathe, and treat ourselves well. Instead, we do what all those self-help books tell us to do: power through, be “gritty,” adapt a growth mindset, persevere. While it can be useful to keep going at times, sometimes it is necessary to slow down, give yourself grace, and take a break.

Why Take a Break?

Giving ourselves space to breathe is not selfish, and it shouldn’t be a rare luxury. In truth, when we take care of our mental, physical, and emotional health, we empower ourselves to be better and do better. While some believe only long work hours and “the grind” can help you succeed, studies have found that isn’t the case. A team at Harvard Business Review analyzed over 80 studies and found that, “Pausing work throughout the day can improve well-being and also help with getting more work done…taking breaks within work hours not only does not detract from performance, but can help boost it.”

And the benefits go beyond the workplace. When we give ourselves space and time, we are better able to process complex or difficult situations. When we allow ourselves room to think, we can come up with better solutions to overcome personal issues, negative relationship dynamics, and other sticking points. Occasionally taking a meaningful respite can help us to reenergize, regain our patience, and prevent burnout.

Make It Meaningful

One key word in the last sentence is “meaningful.” When we do convince ourselves it’s okay to take a break, we may not know what to do with ourselves. Instead of taking a meaningful break or engaging in an actual form of relaxation, we end up turning on the TV or scrolling through social media. This may be a temporary band-aid, but it can also have the opposite effect. The news might increase our anxiety, and social media might create unrealistic standards for our homes, our relationships, and ourselves. What to do instead?

Consider creating a “comfort list.” This can be a go-to list of items that will help you relax and unwind in a meaningful way. In addition to including your ideas for meaningful breaks/comforts, the list can also be divided into quick, straightforward activities as well as more involved activities. If you need to take a break NOW and don’t have time to engage in anything too elaborate, opt for one of the quicker activities. If you really need some time to unwind, look to the more involved activities.

Some quick, short-term, easy activities for a “comfort list” could include:

  • Reading a chapter in a book
  • Making a cup of tea and doing a crossword puzzle
  • Stretching
  • Going to the movies (by yourself or with someone)
  • Doing a little baking or cooking while listening to a podcast
  • Journaling
  • Meditating
  • Walking outside (by yourself or with a companion)

More involved activities could include:

  • Going to a coffee shop with a book in hand
  • Doing yoga or hitting the gym
  • Taking a cooking class
  • Grabbing a beverage or an appetizer with a close friend
  • Going to the library
  • Heading to a local conservatory
  • Going to a theater production
  • Taking a community education class
  • Volunteering to walk dogs or play with kittens

Even more involved activities could include:

  • Planning a vacation
  • Booking a nearby hotel room for a “staycation” (and hot tub time!)
  • Having a spa day

The next time you’re feeling overwhelmed and on the brink of a burnout, take a look at the comfort list you put together. Which activities might help to rejuvenate you? Do you need to do something right now, or do you have the time and patience to engage in one of the more involved activities? We all need breaks, and this type of list can help you find the self-care you need when you don’t feel creative enough to come up with ideas to relax. Just turn to your list and start getting the (much needed) care you require.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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December 4, 2024 5 Reasons to Invest in YOU

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If you’re like many people I know, the holiday season is a time when you put your personal needs aside to focus on others. That might mean hosting holiday gatherings, working hard to wrap up year-end projects, or buying presents for family members, friends, and colleagues. In between all the hustle and bustle, it can be difficult to pause and think about the road ahead for YOU—your personal or professional future.

I encourage you to take a few moments this month to turn your attention inward. Doing so is not selfish or indulgent. Rather, it is an essential part of self-care, career advancement, and staying at the top of your game. Not only that, when you invest in yourself, you become better equipped to support those around you.

When you choose to invest in yourself, you reap many benefits including the following:

Gaining Clarity

When you choose to invest in yourself, you gain clarity on your goals, values, and the direction you want to take in life. This self-reflection can help you make more informed decisions about your career, relationships, and overall well-being. On the flip side, if you continue forging ahead without pause, you may lose sight of what truly matters. Taking time to invest in yourself can help you regain that clarity.

Improving Skills & Knowledge

We all have a “needs improvement” area. If you already know your shortcomings, consider enrolling in a course, a class, or a training program to fill that knowledge gap or sharpen your skills. Consider talking this over with a supervisor, since your workplace may pay for your continued education. If your focus is on leadership, building confidence, or advancing your career, check out my online 10-Minute Leadership Challenge course.

Boosting Confidence

Investing in yourself, whether through education, skill development, or self-care, can significantly boost your confidence. As you grow and improve, you’ll feel more capable and empowered to tackle new challenges. When I work with teams or lead workshops, one of the most common areas of improvement for attendees is courage. Many of us struggle with taking brave actions in the workplace and need a little help to gain the necessary confidence to act or step outside our comfort zones to become stronger leaders.

Expanding Career Opportunities

When you choose to invest in yourself, that means you are also investing in your future. By developing new skills, knowledge, and confidence, you open yourself up to expanded career opportunities. Employers often seek out candidates who demonstrate a commitment to continuous learning and self-improvement. Taking the time to further your education and skills makes you more valuable and marketable—positioning you for promotions, new roles, or even a career change.

Broadening Your Perspective

One important potential side effect of investing in yourself is the expansion of your perspective. When you dedicate time and energy to learning, growing, and reflecting, you naturally start to see the world through a new lens. This broadened outlook can lead to increased creativity, empathy, and innovative thinking. By investing in yourself, you become better equipped to navigate complex challenges, collaborate effectively with others, and contribute more meaningfully to your personal and professional spheres. Ultimately, broadening your point of view can enrich every aspect of your life.

Taking time for self-reflection and continued education can provide invaluable benefits that positively impact every area of your life. Don’t let the busyness of the holidays prevent you from making your own needs a priority. It is essential to dedicate some time and resources (if only a little!) to your personal and professional growth. Help yourself so you can help others.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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October 23, 2024 Adapting During Difficult Times (5 Ways)

No one is immune to the challenges and setbacks that life can bring. Whether it’s a global crisis, a personal tragedy, or a professional roadblock, we all face rough patches at times. The key is how we respond to these difficult moments. As a career and life coach, I have guided several individuals through periods of uncertainty and change. Time and again, I’ve witnessed the power of resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to pivot.

In this post, I’ll share five essential tips to help you navigate difficult times and emerge stronger than before.

1. Embrace a Growth Mindset

When faced with adversity, it’s easy to slip into a fixed mindset—the belief that our abilities and circumstances are set in stone. However, research shows that adopting a growth mindset can be a game-changer. A growth mindset is the understanding that our skills, talents, and even our life situations can be developed and improved through effort, strategy, and perseverance.

Instead of seeing challenges as insurmountable obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth and learning. Remember: your current circumstances do not define your future.

2. Cultivate Flexibility

Adaptability is a superpower when it comes to navigating difficult times. The ability to pivot and adjust your approach as needed is crucial for weathering life’s storms. Rigid thinking and inflexible behaviors can quickly become liabilities, while flexibility and openness to change can be your greatest assets.

In my experience, it is best to be open-minded and receptive to new ideas. Experiment with different strategies and be willing to let go of what’s no longer working. If you embrace the mindset of a lifelong learner (constantly seeking new skills and perspectives), you set yourself up to thrive.

3. Build a Support Network

No one should have to face difficult times alone. Surround yourself with a network of supportive individuals who can offer encouragement, advice, and a listening ear when you need it most. This could include family, friends, mentors, or a professional coach.

Lean on your support system for practical assistance, emotional guidance, and a fresh perspective. Far too often, we’re afraid to ask for help even if we truly need it. I urge you to have the courage to reach out to others and be a little vulnerable when you need to.

4. Practice Self-Care

When life gets tough, it’s easy to neglect your own well-being. However, prioritizing self-care is crucial for maintaining your resilience and adaptability. Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit, such as:

  • Engaging in regular exercise or physical activity
  • Practicing mindfulness, meditation, or deep breathing
  • Pursuing hobbies and creative outlets
  • Getting enough sleep and maintaining a healthy sleep schedule
  • Eating a balanced, nutritious diet
  • Seeking professional support, such as therapy or counseling, if needed

By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

5. Reframe Your Perspective

The way you perceive and interpret difficult situations can have a significant impact on your ability to adapt and overcome. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of a challenge, try to reframe your perspective and focus on the opportunities for growth and learning.

Ask yourself questions like:

  • What can I learn from this experience?
  • How can I use this challenge as a springboard for positive change?
  • What strengths or resources do I have that can help me navigate this situation?

By shifting your mindset and looking for the silver linings, you can transform seemingly insurmountable obstacles into stepping stones towards a brighter future.

Navigating difficult times is never easy, but with the right mindset, tools, and support, it is possible to not only survive but thrive. By embracing a growth mindset, cultivating flexibility, building a support network, practicing self-care, and reframing your perspective, you can develop the resilience and adaptability needed to overcome any challenge that comes your way.

Remember, tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Believe in your ability to adapt and overcome, and you’ll be well on your way to a brighter, more fulfilling future.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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