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July 5, 2023 5 Ways to Manage Negativity and Build a Positive Outlook
It is well-known in psychology that people tend to remember and cling to negative experiences more intensely than positive ones. That tendency is called negativity bias, and it can color the way we see the world. Instead of paying attention to the half-dozen positive comments after a presentation, we’re more likely to dwell on the one person who said they didn’t resonate with the material. Instead of recalling past experiences of success, we focus on the failures. To make matters worse, we are often inundated with bad news from the news, social media, and other sources.
Strategies for Overcoming Negativity
How can we overcome all this negativity in our lives? Try any or all of the following five practices:
Practice Gratitude
Believe it or not, gratitude is a state of mind you can practice and adapt with a little time and effort (it is not necessarily innate or intuitive!). Every day, write down three things for which you are grateful. These don’t have to be big things; they could be as simple as enjoying a cup of coffee or having a supportive friend. Focusing on what is going well in your life can help shift your thoughts away from negativity.
Embrace Failure
Failure is a natural part of life. Things are not going to go perfectly at all times (wouldn’t life be boring if they did?), so it’s better to face failures head on and strategize how to overcome them, rather than letting them completely derail you. Instead of dwelling on mistakes or perceived failures, use them as opportunities for growth and learning. Reflect on what went wrong and how you can improve in the future. Remember, the most innovative companies, such as Google and Apple, are not afraid of making mistakes and missteps on their journey to produce something cutting edge and new.
Surround Yourself with Positivity
The people you surround yourself with and the media you consume can have a big impact on your mindset. Seek friends and colleagues who have a positive outlook, are supportive, don’t say nasty things about others, and who encourage you in your endeavors. In terms of media, it’s a good idea to limit your social media and news time, AND edit who/what shows up on your news feed. This doesn’t mean you’re tuning out the world; you’re simply limiting your exposure to media that can often feel “doom and gloom.”
Talk Back to Your Gremlins
Does it sometimes feel like you have a gremlin that invades your thoughts and tells you things like: “you can’t,” “you’re not good enough,” “no one will listen to your thoughts,” or “you shouldn’t even be in this meeting.” I call this “gremlin” your saboteur—the negative soundtrack that runs through your mind and belittles your abilities. It’s time to start talking back! Pay attention to your negative thoughts, acknowledge them, and work on reframing them into more positive, constructive thoughts.
Practice Self-Care
Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is essential for building a positive mindset. Make time for activities that you enjoy, get adequate sleep, eat well, and prioritize your mental health. It’s much easier to maintain a positive mindset when you’re feeling refreshed, healthy, and energized (see my post on 5-minute self-care ideas).
Building a positive mindset is a powerful tool for overcoming negativity and improving your quality of life. The five strategies outlined above can help you shift your thought patterns and approach life with a more optimistic outlook. It may take time and effort, but the benefits are worth it. Don’t let negativity bias control your life—take charge of your thoughts and embrace the positive.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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June 14, 2023 5 Signs You Could Benefit From an Online Leadership Course
Last week, we talked about the benefits of taking an online, on-demand leadership course. But how do you know if this is the right path for you? Let’s talk about 5 signs that indicate you could benefit from an on-demand virtual leadership course. You might get more out of this type of course than you think!
1. You’re a first-time manager
Being a manager for the first time can be a daunting experience. You may have been a superstar in your previous role, but managing a team is an entirely different ball game. An online leadership course can help you learn the essential leadership skills you need to be an effective manager, from communication to delegation. As the saying goes, “You don’t know what you don’t know!” This is especially true for first-time managers since they may not have had many opportunities to practice leadership skills in their prior role.
2. You want to improve your communication skills
Effective communication is essential for any manager, but it’s not always easy to master. An online leadership course can teach you how to communicate more clearly and confidently, whether you’re delivering a presentation or having a one-on-one with a team member. Through a leadership course, you can learn tips for active listening, asking the right questions, and providing constructive feedback. Plus, you’ll have the opportunity to practice these skills in a safe and supportive environment.
In my online leadership course, I focus on clarity and confidence as two key factors to aid and improve communication.
3. You want to establish trust with your team
One of the most important foundations of effective leadership is trust. For a team to truly trust you, it’s imperative to demonstrate competence, integrity, and authenticity. An online leadership course can help you learn how to build trust with your team members, from setting clear expectations to following through on commitments. You can also learn how to create a culture of psychological safety that encourages open communication and constructive feedback.
4. You struggle with delegation
As a leader, you can’t do everything yourself (as much as you might try to do so!). It’s essential to delegate tasks to team members so you can focus on the big picture. Delegation can be challenging, especially if you’re a perfectionist. An online leadership course can teach you how to delegate effectively, so you can maximize your team’s productivity.
5. You need help navigating difficult situations
All leaders face difficult or sensitive situations from time to time. You might have to engage in a difficult conversation, deliver bad news, or take disciplinary action. Whatever the case, an online leadership course can equip you with the skills you need to navigate these situations with grace and professionalism. Through the course, you can learn how to handle conflict, manage emotions, and make tough decisions.
An online leadership course can be beneficial for individuals in various leadership roles. Whether you’re a first-time manager looking to build fundamental leadership skills or an experienced leader seeking to improve your communication and delegation abilities, an on-demand virtual course can help you develop and refine your leadership skills. Such a course can also help you create a safe and supportive work environment for your team.
Consider taking an online leadership course, such as the 10-Minute Leadership Challenge, to enhance your leadership skills and take your career to the next level.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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April 19, 2023 From Busy to Productive: 5 Steps to Take Control
We rush about our days, furiously trying to accomplish more and more, yet we often feel like we’re getting nowhere. If this resonates with you, it could be time to re-evaluate your approach to productivity. Here are five steps you can take to turn busyness into productivity.
Engage in Big-Picture Thinking
Too often, we approach our days in a reactive manner: racing to answer emails, putting out (figurative) fires, and responding to tasks. Instead, try shifting your focus to the bigger picture: what are your goals? What is your motivation? What would success look like? Take a few moments to review what you’ve accomplished in the past, the challenges you faced, and the progress you’ve made.
Simplify
Are you spending too much time on low priority tasks? Take inventory of the tasks that have filled up your days. Ask yourself what is the most meaningful thing you could be doing right now to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself? Ask yourself, “What am I avoiding?” Consider eliminating tasks that don’t support your larger goals. Reduce distractions and simplify.
Start the Day with a Plan
Rather than just diving into whatever tasks are right in front of you, take a few moments to plan out the day. Look at your bigger goals in the context of the day, and make a plan for which tasks will help you get closer to those goals. Give yourself permission to be realistic and start small. Determine what’s worth the effort and what can be left until later.
Say No
Be willing to say no to new tasks, even if you feel pressured to take them on. Respectfully decline projects that don’t work with your personal vision, goals, abilities, or current bandwidth. If a project conflicts with your goals, feel confident enough in yourself to say no.
Focus on Projects, Not Hours
If you’re told you have to sit at your desk for eight hours no matter what, you’ll likely pace yourself so you fill those eight hours exactly. This reminds me of how goldfish will grow bigger or remain small, according to how big their fish tank is. You have no motivation to work efficiently if you’ll be sitting in that chair for eight hours, no matter what.
On the other hand, if you focus on the project at hand (instead of hours), you’re more likely to work efficiently and effectively to complete it in a timely manner.
Turning busyness into productivity is not an easy task, but it IS achievable. Start by looking at the bigger picture, simplify, start your day with a plan, say no, and focus on projects instead of hours. With a few shifts in mentality, you can foster a much clearer and calmer workflow.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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