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December 6, 2023 Why to “Ramp Up” Your Resolutions

When the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, we feel a sense of renewal, a fresh start. Many of us make New Year’s resolutions and pledge to begin our new healthy habits as soon as the year begins. Although the energy of a new year can help us along for a while, it can be very difficult to sustain a new habit if we aren’t used to doing it. Making the switch from a junk food diet to a healthy one, going from the couch to the gym, cutting ourselves off from social media, or any big lifestyle change can rock our routines and make us feel a bit off balance. And this discomfort might be enough for many people to eventually give up and say, “Well, there’s always next year…”
How can we avoid making short-lived resolutions? How can we make healthy changes that last? The answer might be “ramping up” your resolutions.
It is difficult for most people to make a major change at the drop of a hat. Instead, it can be helpful to make incremental changes—minor tweaks to your usual routine that are relatively painless to implement. Small changes can add up, especially when you make a conscious effort to ramp up those changes day after day, and week after week.
If you haven’t been jogging lately, it would be exceedingly difficult (if not impossible!) to run a marathon. That’s why there are marathon training regimens in place. These programs help people build up speed and stamina over the course of several months, so by the time the marathon rolls around, they’re well prepared.
The same idea can be applied to ramping up your resolutions. A month or two before the new year, you might start building toward your resolution. Let’s say you’d like to read two books every month next year. You can start by committing to reading a minimum of three pages a day for a few days. Then, you can increase that amount to five pages, then ten pages, then an entire chapter. By New Year’s Eve, you will have developed the beginning of a reading habit and will be ready to tackle your resolution in earnest.
Another example is eating a healthier diet. To prepare for this resolution, you can start small. Try swapping a daily junk food snack for a healthier option (swap potato chips for sliced veggies or an apple; swap a cookie for a piece of low-sugar dark chocolate). Or, you could modify one of your daily meals to be healthier (eating a salad for lunch instead of a pre-packaged sandwich or mac ‘n’ cheese).
To ramp up to your resolution, it’s a good idea to keep a few things in mind:
- It pays to plan! Set a starting point and map out how you will slowly ramp up your behavior.
- Use a calendar and set alerts. This will help remind you of your next “ramp up.”
- Don’t stress the start date. You can start making incremental changes at any time of year, not just before the new year. Just make sure you have a clear direction and have mapped out how you will ramp up.
- Celebrate wins! Don’t forget to recognize the progress you’re making.
- Get others on board. It can be very helpful to include others on your journey of self-improvement. Ask a friend to check in from time to time to help you reach your goals (and don’t forget to offer to do the same for them).
The end of the year is fast approaching, and it’s not too late to start thinking about the changes you’d like to make for yourself. No matter your goals, it can be hugely helpful to tackle them slowly, one small change at a time. You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on!
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
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November 29, 2023 10 Ways to Find Calm and Practice Self-Care

The holidays can be joyful, fun, and full of laughter…but they can also be chaotic and overwhelming. Between juggling end-of-the-year work projects, holiday parties, gift giving, and winter activities, you might find yourself in need of some peace and quiet. But how can you find any tranquility with this flurry of events and activities? How can you possibly step away when there are so many demands on your time? Here are 10 ways to find your calm during the hectic holiday season.
1. Start your day with mindfulness
Dedicate a few minutes each morning for meditation or deep breathing exercises to set a calm tone for the day.
2. Prioritize self-care
Make time for activities that recharge you, such as taking a hot bath, reading a book, walking outside, or writing in a journal.
3. Learn to say no
Don’t feel obligated to attend every event or take on every task. It’s okay to decline and prioritize your well-being.
4. Create a calming environment
Fill your space with soothing scents, soft lighting, and relaxing music or an audiobook to create an atmosphere of tranquility.
5. Practice gratitude
Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, such as your health, loved ones, and the simple pleasures in life.
6. Set boundaries
Establish clear boundaries with your time and energy. Learn to say “no” to things that drain you, and prioritize what truly matters.
7. Embrace simplicity
Simplify your holiday traditions and activities. Focus on what brings you joy and let go of unnecessary stressors.
8. Disconnect from technology
Take breaks from screens and social media to give your mind (and your eyes!) a break. Engage in offline activities that bring you peace and enjoyment.
9. Get moving
Engage in physical activity to release stress and boost your mood. Go for a walk, do yoga, or participate in a favorite sport.
10. Seek support
Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for continuous guidance and support during the busy holiday season.
Finding calm and practicing a little self-care is possible with the right strategies, even when you’re busier than ever. By establishing a few intentional practices, you can navigate the holiday season with more peace and tranquility. Remember to take care of yourself and prioritize your wellbeing amid the chaos, and you’ll be able to enjoy the holidays in a more relaxed, joyful, and authentic way.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
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November 1, 2023 Resilience Can Be Learned (4 ways)

Many people think that resilience, courage, boldness, and other related personal qualities are 100% innate and cannot be learned. But that’s simply not the case. While it’s true that some people may be naturally bold or buoyant, that doesn’t mean there isn’t hope for the rest of us. We can build our resilience or amplify our courage. These are life skills that can be learned (or improved) with practice, intentionality, and repetition.
But how do you go about it? What methods and approaches can you use to improve your resilience? Here are 4 ways to get started:
Create a Resilience Plan
In some situations, you know when hard times are coming and you have the opportunity to plan for them. For example, if you know a busy season is coming up in the workplace, or if you know your family is going to have to face some difficulties (extra expenses for a home remodel, upcoming health treatments, etc.), you can put together a “resilience plan.”
This might involve setting achievement goals and mapping out periods of time when you’ll need to buckle down to get something done. When you make your plan, be sure to consider how you will achieve your goals. For example, how will you make sure your pile of work is completed on time? Will you get up an hour earlier, block all social media, set timers/follow the Pomodoro method, or get help from an accountability partner? When creating your plan, don’t forget to build in rest time or down time. Intentional breaks can help you rejuvenate and improve your focus in the long run.
Take “One More Step”
When you feel like giving up, challenge yourself to “take one more step.” If you’re exercising, try to do just one more pushup or hold your plank for just a few more seconds. If you’re working on a project, set a timer to work for just ten more minutes. If you’re writing a report, challenge yourself to write just one more paragraph (or even one more sentence). When we push ourselves beyond our perceived limits, we are actively building our resilience.
Seek Support
Building resilience can be challenging, and it’s important to seek support from others. Surround yourself with a strong network of friends, family, or mentors who can provide encouragement and guidance. Share your experiences and challenges with them, and allow them to offer their perspectives and advice. Sometimes just having someone to listen to you can make a world of difference. Additionally, consider joining support groups or online communities where you can connect with others who are also working on building resilience. Remember, you don’t have to go through this journey alone.
Cultivate a Growth Mindset
Having a growth mindset is crucial for building resilience. Embrace the belief that your abilities and qualities can be developed through hard work, dedication, and learning from failures. Instead of viewing setbacks as permanent or personal flaws, see them as opportunities for growth and improvement. Cultivate a positive attitude towards challenges and see them as stepping stones towards success. Adopting a growth mindset allows you to bounce back from setbacks, persevere through difficulties, and continuously strive for personal growth. Remember, resilience is not about never experiencing failure or hardship, but about how you respond and learn from them. Embrace a growth mindset and watch your resilience soar.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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