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The holidays can be joyful, fun, and full of laughter…but they can also be chaotic and overwhelming. Between juggling end-of-the-year work projects, holiday parties, gift giving, and winter activities, you might find yourself in need of some peace and quiet. But how can you find any tranquility with this flurry of events and activities? How can you possibly step away when there are so many demands on your time? Here are 10 ways to find your calm during the hectic holiday season.

1. Start your day with mindfulness

Dedicate a few minutes each morning for meditation or deep breathing exercises to set a calm tone for the day.

2. Prioritize self-care

Make time for activities that recharge you, such as taking a hot bath, reading a book, walking outside, or writing in a journal.

3. Learn to say no

Don’t feel obligated to attend every event or take on every task. It’s okay to decline and prioritize your well-being.

4. Create a calming environment

Fill your space with soothing scents, soft lighting, and relaxing music or an audiobook to create an atmosphere of tranquility.

5. Practice gratitude

Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, such as your health, loved ones, and the simple pleasures in life.

6. Set boundaries

Establish clear boundaries with your time and energy. Learn to say “no” to things that drain you, and prioritize what truly matters.

7. Embrace simplicity

Simplify your holiday traditions and activities. Focus on what brings you joy and let go of unnecessary stressors.

8. Disconnect from technology

Take breaks from screens and social media to give your mind (and your eyes!) a break. Engage in offline activities that bring you peace and enjoyment.

9. Get moving

Engage in physical activity to release stress and boost your mood. Go for a walk, do yoga, or participate in a favorite sport.

10. Seek support

Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for continuous guidance and support during the busy holiday season.

Finding calm and practicing a little self-care is possible with the right strategies, even when you’re busier than ever. By establishing a few intentional practices, you can navigate the holiday season with more peace and tranquility. Remember to take care of yourself and prioritize your wellbeing amid the chaos, and you’ll be able to enjoy the holidays in a more relaxed, joyful, and authentic way.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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Many people think that resilience, courage, boldness, and other related personal qualities are 100% innate and cannot be learned. But that’s simply not the case. While it’s true that some people may be naturally bold or buoyant, that doesn’t mean there isn’t hope for the rest of us. We can build our resilience or amplify our courage. These are life skills that can be learned (or improved) with practice, intentionality, and repetition.

But how do you go about it? What methods and approaches can you use to improve your resilience? Here are 4 ways to get started:

Create a Resilience Plan

In some situations, you know when hard times are coming and you have the opportunity to plan for them. For example, if you know a busy season is coming up in the workplace, or if you know your family is going to have to face some difficulties (extra expenses for a home remodel, upcoming health treatments, etc.), you can put together a “resilience plan.”

This might involve setting achievement goals and mapping out periods of time when you’ll need to buckle down to get something done. When you make your plan, be sure to consider how you will achieve your goals. For example, how will you make sure your pile of work is completed on time? Will you get up an hour earlier, block all social media, set timers/follow the Pomodoro method, or get help from an accountability partner? When creating your plan, don’t forget to build in rest time or down time. Intentional breaks can help you rejuvenate and improve your focus in the long run.

Take “One More Step”

When you feel like giving up, challenge yourself to “take one more step.” If you’re exercising, try to do just one more pushup or hold your plank for just a few more seconds. If you’re working on a project, set a timer to work for just ten more minutes. If you’re writing a report, challenge yourself to write just one more paragraph (or even one more sentence). When we push ourselves beyond our perceived limits, we are actively building our resilience.

Seek Support

Building resilience can be challenging, and it’s important to seek support from others. Surround yourself with a strong network of friends, family, or mentors who can provide encouragement and guidance. Share your experiences and challenges with them, and allow them to offer their perspectives and advice. Sometimes just having someone to listen to you can make a world of difference. Additionally, consider joining support groups or online communities where you can connect with others who are also working on building resilience. Remember, you don’t have to go through this journey alone.

Cultivate a Growth Mindset

Having a growth mindset is crucial for building resilience. Embrace the belief that your abilities and qualities can be developed through hard work, dedication, and learning from failures. Instead of viewing setbacks as permanent or personal flaws, see them as opportunities for growth and improvement. Cultivate a positive attitude towards challenges and see them as stepping stones towards success. Adopting a growth mindset allows you to bounce back from setbacks, persevere through difficulties, and continuously strive for personal growth. Remember, resilience is not about never experiencing failure or hardship, but about how you respond and learn from them. Embrace a growth mindset and watch your resilience soar.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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Even seasoned, experienced leaders feel fear. Fear is a natural part of taking healthy risks, growing, and striving to achieve your goals. In my experience, the best leaders do not gloss over their fears or pretend they don’t exist. Rather, they acknowledge their fears and strategize how to overcome them.

In this article, let’s talk about 5 different fears many of us experience in the workplace, and how to overcome them.

Fear of Failure

One of the most common career fears is the fear of failure. This fear can be paralyzing and can prevent us from taking risks and exploring new opportunities. To avoid falling into this trap, it’s important to shift your mindset and embrace failure as a learning experience. If you do happen to fail, what’s the worst that could happen? If “the worst” does happen, how might you recover from it? And what opportunities might you gain from experiencing failure? With the right attitude, failure can always be reframed as an opportunity for growth and development.

Impostor Syndrome

Impostor syndrome has been a hot topic for a while, and for good reason. This commonly held fear revolves around the belief that you are not qualified or deserving of your successes, and that you will eventually be exposed as a fraud. Many high-achieving individuals experience this fear, and it can hold them back from reaching their full potential. To overcome impostor syndrome, it’s important to pause and recognize your achievements AND give yourself credit for your hard work. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who can provide perspective and remind you of your capabilities.

Fear of Making Waves

In the workplace, many people fear speaking up and making waves. They worry about the potential consequences of rocking the boat or challenging the status quo. However, staying silent can hinder career growth, prevent positive change, and make you feel untrue to yourself and your values. To overcome this fear, it’s important to cultivate assertiveness and effective communication skills. Practice expressing your opinions and ideas in a respectful and constructive manner. Remember, your voice matters and your insights can contribute to the success of your team or organization.

Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection stems from the fear of being judged or not accepted by others. To overcome this fear, it’s important to build resilience and develop a growth mindset. Remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth or abilities—it really has more to do with the other person than it does with you. If you do experience rejection, don’t look at it as a stop sign, but as a speed bump. Reassess, re-strategize, and keep going.

Fear of Change

Many individuals stay firmly rooted in their comfort zones, even if it means missing out on potential growth opportunities. However, change is inevitable in our fast-paced world, and embracing it is crucial for personal and professional development. To overcome the fear of change, focus on the potential benefits and opportunities that change can bring. Be open-minded, flexible, and willing to adapt to new circumstances. Remember, true growth happens outside of your comfort zone.

Fear is a natural part of the human experience, especially when it comes to our careers. By taking intentional steps to acknowledge and address our fears head-on, we can overcome them and unlock our true potential. Keep in mind, even great leaders are not exempt from experiencing fear. However, they’ve learned to get comfortable with stepping outside their comfort zones—that’s the only way to truly grow and face challenges with confidence and dignity.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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