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July 3, 2024 8 Tricks to Complete that Terrible Task

At one point or another, we’ve all had to deal with tasks that fill us with dread. Maybe this involves having a tough conversation with a co-worker, or maybe it means filling out a long and tedious spreadsheet. Or, it could entail picking up the phone and calling an unpleasant or difficult client. Or, perhaps, this is a simple clerical task that we, for whatever reason, have formed a mental block against.

What is your personal “Mount Everest” right now? What task have you been putting off because the mere thought of it makes your stomach turn or your head hurt?

No matter what terrible task is clogging your to-do list, I believe in your ability to conquer it. Let’s talk about 8 ways to overcome this obstacle:

Block Out Time

Many of us have a full calendar, which can give us an excuse for procrastinating or putting off a difficult task. Because of this, it’s a good idea to specifically carve out time to tackle your “trouble project.” Block off whatever time you need on your calendar and STICK TO IT, just as you would honor a business meeting with a client or co-worker.

Set a Timer

If you’ve set aside time but you’re still having trouble getting started, try setting a timer. Once the timer is going, you’re not allowed to do anything else (check social media, browse online, clean your desk drawer) besides the one, specific task you need to do. If the idea of a timer sounds daunting, try setting it for a short amount of time—say 10 or 15 minutes. The idea is to simply get moving, even for a short while. This can help the task seem less daunting.

Prepare

If you need to engage in a tough conversation or send a difficult email, it is a good idea to prepare. Rehearse what you’re going to say, write out a rough draft, or practice out loud (see my blog post on prepping for tough conversations). If the task involves individual work (say, filling out a tedious spreadsheet), you can prepare by setting up your environment for success. Close your door, put your phone in airplane mode, put on your headphones—whatever will help you concentrate.

Relax

Sometimes the very idea of a certain task can cause stress. To combat heightened stress, try engaging in a relaxing activity before diving in. Try 15 minutes of yoga or stretching, do a crossword puzzle, read a few pages of a book, or go on a brief walk. Then get started!

Talk About It

To help you gain new perspectives, it can be helpful to talk about your assignment with others. You might choose to consult those who are close to the problem—people who understand exactly what you’re up against—or those who are removed from it and will see your situation with fresh eyes. Both types of people have merit and can potentially offer valuable points of view.

Set a Deadline

If your terrible task does not have a firm deadline, set one! Then, commit to sticking to it. This can give you the motivation you need to get rolling and complete your assignment.

Determine a Stick…

What happens if you do not finish your task on time? Or if you fail to work on the project during your allotted time? Figure out a “stick” to motivate yourself. Maybe you’re not allowed to open any social media apps until you’ve completed the task. Or perhaps you’ll opt to cut down your TV time and dedicate that time to your “terrible task.”

…and a Carrot!

Don’t forget to celebrate your victory against the terrible task. Figure out how you will reward yourself for completing this project, and keep that reward in mind as you work. This could be something small (a special dessert, a new book, etc.) or something larger (dinner out, a weekend away), depending on how difficult the task is.

Though it is tempting to continually “kick the can down the road” when it comes to terrible tasks, the reality is, we have to face them eventually. Use these 8 tricks to motivate yourself to complete the project that’s looming over you. Believe me, you’ll feel better once you do.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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June 26, 2024 How to Establish Communication Expectations

Have you ever worked with someone who is a notoriously poor communicator? Perhaps they often do not reply to emails, their expectations are unclear, or they come across as brusque or unapproachable. When communication is lacking, that can affect all aspects of the work environment and result in misunderstandings or delays. To establish effective communication expectations, it’s important to set clear guidelines from the start.

Here are 5 ways to improve communication standards in the workplace:

Define Communication Channels

When working with someone, it’s a good idea to inquire about their preferred communication methods. While email might seem like the go-to method, some people prefer the directness of a phone call or the brevity of a text or Slack message. In some cases (as with major or complex projects), in-person communication might even be best. By understanding others’ preferred communication methods, you can streamline processes and reduce the risk of miscommunication. Furthermore, having clarity on how and when to use each communication method can enhance efficiency and productivity within the workplace.

Set Response Time Expectations

Setting expectations for response times can help manage others’ expectations and prevents misunderstandings due to delayed responses. While it may seem strange, at first, to set these expectations, they can actually be enormously helpful for both parties. Approach this tactfully, saying something like, “Since I would like to move on to the next phase of the project by Friday, I would very much appreciate your response by Thursday afternoon.” Additionally, establishing guidelines for urgent communications versus non-urgent ones can aid in prioritizing tasks effectively.

Address Non-Communication and Poor Communication

When someone is repeatedly non-responsive or has trouble clearly and concisely communicating their thoughts, it can be a good idea to address the issue directly. Try offering feedback or guidance on how to improve their communication skills. Providing examples of misunderstandings or delays caused by poor communication can help illustrate the importance of effective communication. By addressing these issues promptly and constructively, you can prevent further communication breakdowns in the future.

Encourage Feedback

Encourage feedback from team members about the communication processes in place. By regularly seeking input and suggestions for improvement, you can foster a culture of open communication and continuous refinement. Creating opportunities for constructive feedback can enhance overall communication standards and ensure that everyone feels heard and valued. This feedback loop can also help identify any recurring issues or challenges in communication, allowing for proactive solutions to be implemented.

Lead by Example

If you expect excellent communication from others, it is essential to lead by example. Demonstrating strong communication skills, such as active listening, clarity in messages, and timely responses, sets the tone for others to follow. Consistency in your communication style can help establish trust and credibility among your colleagues. By practicing good communication habits and showing respect for others’ time and preferences, you contribute to a positive communication culture within the workplace. Remember, effective communication is a two-way street that requires active participation from all parties involved.

Communication can, quite literally, make or break an organization. When you take the time to set communication expectations and address communication issues directly, you set the stage for a more productive and harmonious work environment. Remember that effective communication is an ongoing process that requires attention and adaptation. By prioritizing clear and respectful communication, you can build stronger relationships, enhance teamwork, and ultimately contribute to the overall success of the organization.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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June 19, 2024 5 Ways to Banish Laziness and Energize Your Team

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Let me establish right away that I am fully supportive of a healthy balance between life and work. If you wear yourself too thin, you’ll eventually become exhausted, resentful, and unable to operate at full capacity. This doesn’t serve you or your workplace. However, there is a big difference between striving for balance and refusing to work or rise to the challenge.

Encouraging your team to embrace productivity and creativity doesn’t mean you expect them to work nonstop. Instead, it’s about fostering a culture where everyone feels motivated to contribute their best. As a leader, you can help to motivate and empower your team, while also banishing laziness and procrastination.

Here are 5 strategies to energize your team:

Set Clear Expectations

If a team does not know where they are heading or unsure of their responsibilities, they might start to feel directionless and frustrated. This can lead to uncertainty and a decrease in productivity. By setting clear expectations for your team, you provide them with a roadmap for success. Make sure everyone understands their roles and responsibilities, as well as the team’s goals and objectives. Clear communication and transparency are key to keeping everyone on track and motivated. When team members know what is expected of them, they are more likely to stay focused and engaged in their work.

Provide Support

As a leader, it is crucial to offer your team members the support, encouragement, and resources they need. This might mean guiding them through challenges, offering training opportunities, or simply being there to listen when they need advice. It could also mean connecting them with mentoring opportunities. A supported team is often a productive team.

Create a Culture of Accountability

If too many deadlines slide, or too many projects are allowed to be subpar, this can send a signal that mediocrity is acceptable. On the other hand, when team members are held accountable for their work and deadlines, it fosters a culture of responsibility and excellence. Encouraging a sense of ownership for individual and team outcomes can drive motivation and productivity. By setting clear standards and expectations, and regularly reviewing progress, you empower your team to take ownership of their work and strive for continuous improvement.

Check In

Regularly checking in with your team members will ensure they have what they need to excel in their roles and feel supported in their work environment. It also allows you a chance to find out what’s working, what’s not, and what they might need to overcome any obstacles. By checking in regularly, you demonstrate your commitment to their success and well-being. This practice also fosters open communication and trust within the team. Furthermore, it allows for adjustments to be made promptly if necessary, ensuring that the team stays on track towards achieving its goals.

Genuinely Care

Seeing the human side of people is an essential way to foster a positive work environment. Show genuine care for your team members by acknowledging their efforts, celebrating their successes, and supporting them during challenging times. Building strong relationships based on care and empathy can significantly boost morale and motivation within the team. Be mindful of their well-being and always be ready to offer a listening ear or lend a helping hand. Your team will appreciate your genuine concern and reciprocate it with increased dedication and loyalty.

As a leader, it’s essential to set clear expectations, provide support, and recognize efforts. By banishing laziness and energizing your team, you create a positive environment that fuels growth and success. And remember to lead by example by demonstrating a strong work ethic to inspire your team to perform at their best.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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