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I get it. It’s difficult to maintain your enthusiasm about work/life/everything when things still seem pretty bad. Every day, we’re bombarded with grim news stories and reminded, yet again, of how dire things are for the planet and for people on all corners of the earth. Plus, many of us are still working from home and trying to balance work and life (kid’s soccer games, doctor’s appointments, keeping a clean house, etc., etc.) as best we can. It can all feel…overwhelming. So how can we possibly wrangle our emotions and convince ourselves that we’re happy or energized?

Well, here’s the thing about emotions: Even if you have to fake a certain emotion for a while, you’ll eventually feel it.

Before I explain, let me offer one important caveat: This advice does not pertain to people struggling with depression or other serious medical conditions. It is meant for those who are simply overwhelmed, feeling a little listless, or could use an energy boost.

That said, let me explain the concept of “fake it until you feel it.”

Essentially, when you want to feel a certain emotion—joy, confidence enthusiasm—do your best to mimic that emotion, and you will eventually genuinely feel it. Amy Cuddy suggests standing in a “power pose” for a few minutes before going into a big meeting to boost your confidence. Similarly, if you’re feeling a little low and want to boost your happiness, smile! Feel your face brighten and your body lift.

This advice isn’t just a “nice idea.” It’s rooted in neuroscience. According to psychologist Michael Schreiner, “…the barrier between external reality and internal reality is basically nonexistent. For example, scans have shown that you can feel happy and therefore smile, or just contort your face into the shape of a smile whether you feel happy or not, and your brain will respond the same way, releasing the same chemicals.” In short, it is usually possible to trick your brain into feeling whatever you wish to feel.

And that is powerful. It means your emotions are somewhat in your own hands.

So, what to do with this newfound knowledge?

First of all, understand that you have power and control. Your emotions are your own, and you can bend them to your will. Once you realize that, you can begin to “fake it until you feel it.” Smile when you’re having a lousy day. Act energized even when you’re feeling drained. Exude confidence even when you’re feeling timid. By putting your best foot forward and simply trying, you spark something in your brain. You begin to think that maybe (just, maybe!) things aren’t so bad. And you begin to gradually feel better.

This is all part of establishing a healthy emotional pattern. It may not be easy at first to get into a healthy, positive mindset, but the more you practice, the easier it will be. So, practice! Make a concerted effort to feel more joyful, positive, enthusiastic, or confident and see if you can trick your brain into actually embracing (not just faking!) these emotions.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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With cold weather right around the corner for many of us, it’s tempting for introverts to give in to their natural instincts and simply spend the next several months in near-hibernation. While that may sound like heaven to some, it could also lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. Most introverts need occasional human interaction (even a warm smile or a thoughtful note) to feel connected or help them through tough times. But…they may not seek it when they need it, or even know how to seek it. What to do? As an introvert, how can you comfortably seek companionship or human connection when you need it?

Try these four suggestions:

Dare to ask

Instead of waiting around, hoping someone will invite you to coffee or an event, take initiative and be the one to extend an invitation. If you’re asking an old friend, this may not be a big deal, but if you’re asking someone you don’t know terribly well, an invitation can feel downright daunting. Accept the vulnerability that comes with asking others to do something, and don’t be deterred if they say no. Either aim for a different date on the calendar or ask someone else.

To ease into asking someone to hang out, you could attend a meet-up with mutual friends or see if someone else is willing to arrange a get together (a spouse or a close friend) that involves meeting a couple new people.

Put parameters on interactions

If you know that long interactions with others can be draining for you, try setting a time limit on get togethers. When you invite someone out for coffee, for instance, frame your invitation like this: “I can meet from 9 a.m. to 10:30. Does that work for you, too?” No need to offer an explanation—just provide the parameters.

Alternatively, you could engage in an activity that has built-in time limits. Go to a movie, watch a play, or engage in a couple rounds of mini golf. When the activity is over, you can naturally part ways.

Seek comfortable settings

To put yourself at ease, hang out with new acquaintances in familiar settings. Suggest meeting at your favorite coffee shop or lunch spot, visiting a local book shop, or even meeting in your home (if that seems appropriate). When you’re in a familiar locale, that removes one more “question mark” from the interaction.

Seek anonymous hangouts

Not every group activity involves talking with strangers or mingling with a crowd. Activities such as yoga, community education classes, going to the movies, or visiting a museum allow you to be around others while you comfortably blend into the crowd. You might invite a friend to attend one of these outings with you, or you could choose to go solo.

Being introverted doesn’t necessarily doom you to a long, lonely string of months when the weather turns chilly. Aim for casual interactions in comfortable locales, and dare to be a tad vulnerable. These small interactions will help scratch your itch for human interactions when you need them most.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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8 Methods for Increasing Productivity

We all get the occasional “blahs” where we don’t feel like doing much of anything. This feeling has been exacerbated for many of us lately because of “pandemic burnout.” We might have trouble feeling enthusiastic or energetic, or we might get more easily discouraged or distracted. For some, it’s been difficult to keep a positive frame of mind or outlook.

And, the thing is, many of us WANT to be productive. We don’t enjoy feeling like we’re in a slump or that the days are long, yet unproductive.

So, how can we combat our listlessness, change our mindsets, and increase productivity? Everyone is different, of course, but I suggest trying one or more of the following approaches to improve your daily productivity.

1. Take Care of Yourself

I’m starting with a tip that may seem obvious, but to me, it is by far the most important. If you’re not getting enough sleep, eating well, or exercising regularly, your mental health and emotional health will suffer right alongside your physical health. There is a strong link between these health factors and personal wellbeing and, frankly, it’s nearly impossible to perform at your peak if you’re feeling unhealthy or mentally unwell. Take care of yourself! Do it for you, do it to help your productivity (and, in turn, feel better about yourself and your achievements!)

2. Tackle Difficult Projects at Your “Peak Time”

Everyone has peak times throughout the time—times when you function best, your mind is clearest, and you’re feeling mentally nimble (See Daniel Pink’s book “When” for more). For some people, that’s the morning (perhaps right after you awaken, or after you’ve had that first cup of coffee). For other people, that might be later in the day or even at night. Take note of your peak time(s) and set aside time to tackle difficult tasks for that timeframe. If you’re a morning person, for instance, it’s better to ignore your emails for a while (they can be answered when you’re not at your peak) in favor of more complex projects.

3. Do NOT Multitask

Have you heard this one before? That’s because it’s absolutely true! You won’t do your best work, and you’ll likely feel more scattered, if you try to field multiple projects or tasks at the same time. Don’t do it! Pick one assignment and put all your attention on that one thing.

4. Block Your Time

Time blocking is a method of setting aside chunks of time throughout the day to work on specific tasks, or a group of related tasks. You might, for example, set aside an hour from 9 a.m. to 10 a.m. to type up a particular report. Or, you might set aside a half-hour from 1:30 to 2:00 to prep for a meeting. Putting a frame around an assignment is like making yourself a little promise: “I will focus on this one particular task from X time to Y time, and do nothing else.”

Keep in mind, you may need to adjust your time slots as the day progresses, but do your best to stick to them! Don’t overschedule yourself. Instead of blocking tasks back-to-back, be sure to schedule in some buffer time, just in case you need to reschedule. And don’t forget to take breaks!

5. Set Timers

An alternative to time blocking is setting a timer when you begin working on a particular project. See what you can get done in, say, 45 minutes. Ready, go!

Setting a timer gives you some incentive to plunge in and JUST WORK. It doesn’t matter how you approach your work or how perfect it is on the first go-around; the important thing is to forge ahead and do it.

6. Set Healthy Boundaries

What’s the one thing that derails you on a given day? For many people, it’s emails.

We see an email pop up from an important co-worker, client, or supervisor, and we automatically want to look at it and reply. I encourage you to be less reactive with your emails and more proactive. When emails control you, they also control your day. Instead of hovering over your inbox, do your best to only check it at designated times (3-4 times per day, if you can!). That way, you can maintain your focus and work on projects at hand, instead of being derailed by “the latest thing.”

7. Manage Meetings and Phone Calls

Like emails, it’s a good idea to only participate in meetings and phone calls that are scheduled in advance. If someone would like to talk with you, they can get on your calendar. Unless something is a true emergency (which, unless you’re a surgeon, this is rarely the case!), they can wait. If you are coerced into participating in a last-minute meeting, be sure to express how you feel. For example: “I can make an exception today and participate, but typically I prefer at least a day or two notice for meetings. I know you didn’t realize this, so I thought I’d let you know my policy. I appreciate it!”

8. Step Away

When you need to, take a break. Step away from your desk, stretch, exercise, eat a healthy snack—whatever it takes to rest and rejuvenate. Some workplaces even encourage naps when you’re feeling dead tired. If you’re working from home (as many people are these days), there’s no harm in stepping away for a power nap. As long as you can bounce back and continue your work, a nap can actually be quite beneficial.

If you’re hoping to increase your productivity, there are many methods and approaches you could try. Sample a few, and see what works for you. Here’s to a better week, month, and year ahead!

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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