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June 25, 2025 Becoming Resilient and Adaptable in a Turbulent World
“You are braver than you believe, smarter than you seem, and stronger than you think.” –Winnie the Pooh
Human beings have always been adaptable and resilient. If you take a look at our history, you’ll see that we’ve survived deadly plagues and massive volcanoes, pestilence and fires, wars and tyrants. Some events seemed insurmountable (the pandemic known as the Black Death wiped out as much as 50 percent of Europe’s population), but we’ve always come through. This week, I want to talk about what resilience and adaptability look like in today’s world, and how you can embrace these qualities to persevere (and maybe even thrive).
Focus on What You Have
By historical standards, we currently have it pretty good. It’s true that we’re going through a period of economic and political turmoil, but we fortunately have several advantages that our ancestors did not. Science (including medical science) is better than ever, we are more widely connected than ever (if we choose to be!), there is more peace internationally than in most periods of history, clean energy is continuing to grow, and quality of life is better (overall) across the world.
These are big-picture considerations, but what about your own life? Even if things aren’t perfect, I’m certain you can find a few things to be grateful for. Think about the people in your life—the positive influences, the friends who check in, the co-workers who say thank you, the people who make you laugh. Your support system can be an incredible source of resilience and strength as you go through hard times. And then there are the things we take for granted—the roof over your head, the dinner on your plate, the fact that you have the ability to read this blog post (meaning you’re both literate and have access to technology). Even something as small as enjoying a good book, planting a vegetable garden, or going on a walk can fortify you enough to face tough times.
In short: focus on the things you enjoy, your support system, and the many blessings in your life. These things can help fuel your resilience and adaptability.
Make a Plan
If you perceive tough times ahead, one of the best things to do is make a plan. Better yet, make several plans—one for tough times, another for tougher times, and a third for “what is even going on?” times. Even the act of drawing up a plan can be comforting. You’re being proactive, thinking ahead, and doing whatever you can. This might mean saving extra money, buying specific items, cutting certain expenses, or investing in yourself.
For example, if you think your job is at risk, now is the time to start taking classes or developing a new skillset. Even in the worst of times in history, people continued to have professions or trades. During major wars and plagues, people still needed clothing, food, housing, fresh water, transportation…the list goes on. Applying this to the modern day, people will still need thousands of goods and services, and it could be a good idea to learn how to provide one or more of them.
Together We’re Stronger
During hard times, the people who are most likely to thrive are the ones with a robust support network. These are the friends who check in on each other, the neighbors who loan each other tools or baking ingredients, the family members who ask, “How can I help?” and the co-workers who occasionally pick up the slack when someone is having an off day (or week!). These are the community centers, libraries, or communal gardens that provide a place to gather, share, and mingle. These support systems can lift us up and help us through the worst of times. Just remember to give as much (or more) as you get, if you can.
I truly believe you are braver, smarter, and stronger than you think. As was the case with your ancestors, you are deeply resilient and can adapt to just about anything. Humans have made it through some incredibly difficult times, and I am optimistic you, too, can weather any storms that blow your way.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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June 11, 2025 Taking Real (Not Performative) Actions
Have you ever felt like a person or business was putting on a show for their own gain? They may have made some kind of gesture or action that seemed helpful or kind on the surface, but when you looked a little closer, this act was really self-serving or ingenuine. Maybe it was a CEO apologizing (but not really apologizing) for some kind of misstep. Or maybe a business donated to a certain political party…and also donated to the competing party.
Gestures such as these would likely make you pause, do a double-take, and question the authenticity of the person, group, or business. That’s because there is a huge difference between genuine actions and performative ones. Genuine actions come from the heart. They are meaningful and substantial. And most importantly, they are done without the expectation of public acknowledgment or thanks.
On the other hand, performative or symbolic actions lack substance. Often, they are done publicly, to bolster the image of a person or business. The people or organizations that are supposedly benefitting from the performative action come second—they’re an afterthought. The most important thing is the boost the performer gets, whether that boost is related to image, finances, or ego.
Examples of Performative Actions
One type of performative action is supporting a marginalized group during a specific time of year (Black History Month, Women’s History Month, Hispanic Heritage Month, etc.) for the sole purpose of profiting off that group. Or, perhaps a company sends out a cheery office-wide email recognizing an important issue (Happy Mental Health Month! Here is a list of 10 ways to practice self-care…), but then fails to take any real action to improve that issue (therapy programs, mental health leave, grief counseling, etc.).
Performance could also happen on a smaller scale. The late Pope Francis used the season of Lent as an example, saying that although giving something up (such as meat or chocolate) could be noble, it is more meaningful to do good works or take genuine steps to help others. He suggested fifteen simple “acts of love” as an alternative. These included saying “hello” and “thank you” to others, reminding people how much you love them, celebrating others’ successes, and donating to those in need. These small actions might not get you much credit or external recognition, but that’s not the point. The point is to quietly and authentically make the world a better place.
Choosing Authenticity
How do you make sure you’re acting authentically and not putting on a performance? Or, on a larger scale, how can you make sure your business is acting with genuine motives?
A great test is to think about your purpose or intentions (or the intentions of the business). Are you genuinely concerned about a cause and want to help? Or are you more concerned with how your actions are being perceived? Are you okay with receiving zero recognition for your actions? Or are you hoping for praise and accolades? These questions might warrant some contemplation—time to really sit and honestly consider your intentions.
Keep in mind: People can often see through a performance. If you act genuinely and have the right intentions, that will take you a long way in all aspects of life. It’s all about intention and carrying out that intention in a forthright way.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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May 21, 2025 Building Community
Practically speaking, we’re more connected than ever. With email, video chats, messaging apps, social media, and more, we’re just a click away from communicating with just about anyone. Why, then, is there so much talk about a nation-wide loneliness epidemic? Why are so many families out of touch with each other? Why are more and more people (from teens to the elderly) feeling isolated? And why do so many people not know their neighbors?
If technology built community, we would be a thriving network of individuals. Instead, many of us sit inside, scrolling through social media and “liking” others’ posts, without making any true connections. It seems we would rather have a million surface-level contacts than sit down with someone and have a conversation. This stark reality is unfortunate, because community is vital, and we need it more than ever.
How to Create Community
There is not, of course, a catch-all answer when it comes to building community. This is something that takes time and looks different in different circumstances. A person’s work community will look different from their community of family and friends, which will look different from their faith, volunteer, or special interest community. We may be more casual or more formal in certain communities. Or, we might feel like some topics are taboo in certain circles. Despite how different our communities can be, I do think some approaches to building community are universal. These include:
Be Genuine
We’ve probably all encountered people who strike us disingenuous or even “fake.” These types of people might be prone to exaggeration, or they might completely change their demeanor when they’re around certain people. While it’s fine to moderate your behavior around certain groups, there’s a big difference between editing your speech and becoming a completely different person. There’s also a difference between being a little more casual/formal in some situations and completely compromising your values. A genuine person will remain steadfast to their values and who they are, at their core.
Reach Out
Building community takes active work and participation. Extend invitations to others, be inclusive, and keep at. Sometimes it takes time for people to warm to you and feel as if they are part of your community. At the same time, if you sense that someone is truly not interested, there are other fish in the sea! Find those who seem interested in a reciprocal relationship—those who are willing to contribute and be a part of something.
Engage
In my book, The Ten-Minute Leadership Challenge, I devote an entire chapter to Building Community (focused on the workplace). Though this book was published a decade ago and parts of it are outdated (nothing about working remotely, for instance!), much of it is still relevant. In the community chapter, I discuss forming an authentic, respectful relationship with others by asking good questions and truly listening to the responses. The book puts forth a challenge related to this on page 119: “Test your listening skills. Challenge yourself to remember three important details from every conversation you have this week. Jot down those details immediately and then try to recall them two or three hours later. Can you do it?”
The purpose of this exercise is to 1) test your listening skills (are you truly paying attention?) and 2) help you learn something new about those around you. Healthy communities involve respectful and reciprocal relationships. It’s important to learn about each other, so we know how best to support and interact with one another.
If you’re feeling the isolation of our modern, social-media-dominated world, I suggest having the courage to put yourself out there, extend invitations to others, and start engaging in meaningful conversations. These are great first steps, but keep in mind: building community takes time and effort. If you genuinely care about your fellow community members, you will periodically check in with them and offer them support. And, if you surround yourself with caring and authentic individuals, they will do the same for you.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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