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December 27, 2023 Holiday Reflection

We’ve done it, friends. We’ve reached the end of another holidays season and another year, and we’re marching forward into the next year. If you’re like many people I know, this year has been filled with ups and downs, peaks and valleys. You’ve learned some tough life lessons, but you have also had moments of joy, satisfaction, and victory. The trick is, clinging to those “peak” moments and letting the valley moments slide away.

You might call this “selective reflection.” Make an effort to sit down (perhaps with a favorite warm beverage!) and spend some time quietly thinking about your accomplishments and positive moments. You could also choose to do this with a journal, jotting down your thoughts about the year. If you go the journaling route, remember this is just for YOU, so there’s no need for perfect grammar or even full sentences. Just write whatever comes to mind.

For me, this last year has had its challenges, but it has also contained several bright and shining moments. I welcomed a little grandson into the world this year, I had a chance to spend quality time with loved ones, I traveled to Iceland with friends, I spent time with family on both the east and west coasts. The list goes on.

When I focus on all the positive, uplifting, and joyful events that occurred this past year, the bad “stuff” seems to melt away. And that’s powerful. When you choose to concentrate on blessings, the difficult moments seem bearable (even if you’re grappling with difficulties right now).

I challenge you to set a positive tone for the New Year. Infuse yourself with positivity and gratitude, and march boldly forward. Don’t forget, you probably had plenty of support and love this past year, and it is always a good idea to reach out to your loved ones and thank them for their positive presence. Demonstrate your gratitude through a phone call, a hand-written card, a meaningful gift—however you see fit to recognize the special individuals in your life.

What will the New Year bring for you? What changes—large or small—do you anticipate in the year ahead? I would love to hear from you.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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December 20, 2023 The Power of Delegation (During the Holidays)

If you’re like many people I know, you tend to get bogged down and busy during the holiday season. You take on an array of tasks—planning holiday gatherings, meal prep, gift shopping, arranging to get yourself and your family to all those holiday activities. With so much on your plate (and I’m not just talking about the turkey!), it can seem difficult to slow down, catch your breath, and re-strategize. But that’s exactly what I encourage you to do.

One of the most powerful ways to lighten your workload is to delegate. Delegation does not mean you’re lazy or ineffective—far from it. Instead, it is a sign of competent leadership, and it shows you are self-aware enough to know when you’ve just about hit your limit.

Even though many of us know delegation is a good idea, we tend to put up barriers. We make up excuses, such as:

“No one else has the skills to do what I need. I have to do it myself.”

“Everyone else is busy, too. It wouldn’t be fair to delegate.”

“What if someone else takes a different approach than I would? I don’t think I’d like that.”

“Delegating doesn’t save all that much time. I would have to explain the entire process/task/etc. to someone else before they could do it.”

…And on and on.

Though these excuses may sound convincing, they are usually quite flimsy. Usually, someone else will have some free time to take on part of your to-do list. And even if a task is difficult and/or the other person does not have the same skills you do, you should be able to train them in (and once you do, they can continue to help in the future).

A lot of these excuses boil down to one key concept: Letting go. For those who like to be in control, it may be difficult to hand over a project to another person. But does it really matter if that person approaches it exactly how you would have? Does it matter if they use different resources or skills to get the job done? As long as the end result is what you were looking for, it shouldn’t matter at all. Besides, you may learn something by observing how someone else approaches a familiar task or project. These can be learning moments, if you let them.

If you’re currently stretched too thin, I challenge you to practice some delegation. Just make sure the delegation is appropriate (not all work tasks can or should be delegated) and that the other person has the time and necessary experience to do the job.

Keep in mind, delegation can be effective in your personal life, as well as your work life. Planning a holiday gathering? Ask someone else to make the pie or to pop by the store to buy paper plates and napkins. Running your kids around to after-school activities? See if you can partner with another parent for drop off/pick up.

All great leaders delegate, and you can embrace this attribute as well. When approached with tact and a little strategy, delegation can work out well for all parties involved.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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December 13, 2023 4 Signs You Need to Slow Down

I’ve worked and spoken with many people who are constantly on the go. They juggle family responsibilities, work, household management, volunteering, and more, while attempting to squeeze in a little time for themselves (working out at the gym, reading a few pages of a book). This pace can work for a while, but when one thing fails, that can create a dominoes-effect disaster. Alternatively, an overly busy person might simply hit a wall and feel completely zapped of energy.

I urge you to not let things come to that. It’s far better to read the signs that, yes, you need to slow down instead of racing forward until your legs give out! Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

Let’s talk about 4 signs that you need to slow down and reassess/re-plan.

1. Your mind is hazy

If you feel foggy for large chunks of the day and you’re having trouble concentrating, chances are you need to slow down. Unless you’re dealing with an underlying health issue (like a thyroid problem), the culprit is likely a lack of sleep and/or spreading yourself too thin.

Make a Change:

Make a concerted effort to get enough sleep each night (7-9 hours for most people). Try using a meditation app to help slow any racing thoughts, prepare for bedtime well in advance, and stay away from screens for at least an hour before you head to bed.

2. You’re focused on the trees

Fixating on daily tasks and minute details (the trees instead of the forest) can be a sign that you’re running full steam ahead and need to pause. When we’re overly busy, we don’t stop to strategize—to see the big picture. Instead, we put our heads down and simply work…even if our work is taking us in the wrong direction.

Make a Change:

I encourage you to set aside time for big-picture thinking and planning. This planning might revolve around your work (Is your team really heading in the right direction? Are you prioritizing the right projects?) or your personal path.

3. You have trouble being present

When we’re tired and stressed, it can be exceedingly difficult to stay present. When others are speaking, we don’t necessarily give them the attention they deserve; instead, our minds are elsewhere, flitting through our to-do lists, current troubles, and the latest thing we read on social media.

Make a Change:

Recognize the importance of being present. When you catch yourself not fully paying attention to someone, make an effort to bring your attention back to them. Challenge yourself to repeat/summarize what that person said, either to yourself or out loud (It sounds like you’re suggesting XYZ, Jana. Is that right?). You can also make an effort to ask good questions after someone is done speaking.

4. You’ve neglected your self-care

If you’re skipping gym workouts and yoga classes, eating a rushed meal at your desk, and can’t remember the last time you did something nice for yourself, chances are you need to slow down and reevaluate your self-care. Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. Without it, we tend to either burn out or not feel great, and that can affect many other areas of our lives.

Make a Change:

If you’re like many people I know, if it’s not on the calendar, it’s not happening! Block off self-care on your personal calendar and commit to it, just as you would commit to a scheduled meeting with your boss. Set aside time to do the things that fuel your body and soul—exercise, read a book, bake cookies, take a walk outside. Once you start taking better care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to shine at work and be there for your family/friends.

If you’re constantly busy and constantly tired or stretched too thin, it may be time to pump the brakes. Pay attention to yourself and do NOT ignore the signs. This is your body and mind telling you that it’s time to slow down, assess, and potentially make some changes before going full steam ahead.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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