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September 27, 2023 Feeling Stuck? Here are 5 ways to get “unstuck” and move forward

There are times in our lives when we feel like our wheels are turning, but we’re going nowhere. We’re in a rut, uncertain of how to move the wagon forward. Or, we’ve been handed a project that is either overly challenging or uninspiring, so we’re having trouble getting motivated to tackle it. Or…we’re simply feeling exhausted and drained.
How do you break through these ruts and “blahs”? How can you get yourself unstuck?
While there’s no magic bullet, there are a few actions you can take to help you move forward. You do have a measure of control over your motivation, whether you realize it or not. For many of us, being stuck is really our brains putting up a roadblock. We can do the job but, for whatever reason, we’re resisting.
But here’s the thing: roadblocks can be overcome. Hurdles can be leaped over. I suggest trying any of the following practices (whatever appeals to you) to help you get unstuck:
Journal
Loosen up your mind and spark your creativity through journaling! Buy a fresh notebook, grab a pen, and start writing. You don’t have to be terribly structured about this process—just write whatever comes to mind. Don’t worry about grammar and punctuation because the journaling is just for you. You might choose to write about whatever is making you feel stuck, or you can write about something totally different—whatever helps get the gears turning.
Change your scenery
Sometimes a simple change of scenery can do wonders for creativity or breaking through mental roadblocks. If you work out of the same office or at the same desk every day, trying switching it up. Test out a co-working space, go to a coffee shop, or bring your laptop to the library. Just remember to bring headphones or earplugs in case the new environment is a bit noisy.
Go for a walk
Taking an intentional break can be great for getting yourself back into gear and reigniting your motivation. In my experience, going on a walk is especially effective because it forces you to leave your desk and gets your blood flowing and your heart pumping. Even a little bit of exercise can boost your mood and sharpen your brain functions, so it’s a good idea to move every once in a while.
Get an outsider’s perspective
If you’re feeling stuck, it can be beneficial to talk about it with someone else. Ask a friend, family member, or a co-worker (preferably one who isn’t too close to the problem at hand) for their perspectives, or simply tell them about the roadblocks you’re facing. Just the act of talking about your sticking point can help move your wheels forward. Whether you realize it or not, this type of discussion is a form of problem solving.
Get away
In some cases, you could be feeling stuck because all of life’s stressors have left you exhausted and have drained your personal batteries. If that’s the case, you might need to hit the “reset button” in a big way. Consider getting away for a while, leaving your laptop behind, and turning on your vacation responder. Whether you enjoy a long weekend away or embark on a two-week vacation, you’re helping to refresh and rejuvenate your brain and boost your motivation. Something about getting away, unplugging, and creating some distance between you and the problem can give you perspective and help you problem solve.
Don’t let yourself remain stuck until the wheels fall off the axel and you end up in the mud! Oftentimes, being stuck is simply a state of mind, and it can be overcome. By using a few tools and tips, I’m certain you can get yourself unstuck and moving forward. And you’ll feel better once you do.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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September 6, 2023 Bringing a Back-to-School Mentality to the Workplace

If you’ve been in the same job for a while, things can start to feel a little routine, or even a little stale. Most of us probably interact with the same people, do the same—or similar—set of tasks, and work the same hours. When we get in a rut like this, our energy levels can drop like a rock. We might feel depleted, unmotivated, or disengaged. We might begin procrastinating because we’re not enthusiastic about the work in front of us.
How can we get out of this rut and re-energize ourselves? How can we overcome the workplace blahs? One approach is bringing a “back-to-school mentality” to the workplace. You know how little kids can be so enthusiastic to start a new school year? They might be excited to see their friends, interact with teachers, or learn something new. THAT is the mentality I’m encouraging you to embrace. Here are 6 ways to do it.
Get Refocused
When we start something new, we’re usually highly engaged with it. At a new job, we spend our early days getting to know the workplace, the people, the expectations, and the job itself. We’re focused on what we’re doing, and we’re more likely to be present.
I know it can be difficult to recapture your spark for your job, but what if you took a week to do any or all of the following?
- Try to be more present
- Remember the fun and challenging parts of your job
- Appreciate the positive aspects of your work
- Recognize the good in your co-workers
As the year draws to a close, getting refocused is a positive and productive way to enter the fourth quarter (Q4).
Approach work with fresh eyes
As a kid, when you head back to school, you’re faced with a lot of things that are brand new. You probably have new teachers, new subjects to learn, and perhaps new people to meet. All this newness helps kids to be adaptable and open-minded. They’re willing to try new things and approach their studies with fresh eyes.
To bring this mentality to the workplace, try to cultivate a sense of novelty and curiosity. Look for opportunities to learn something new or take on different tasks. Challenge yourself to think outside the box and come up with innovative solutions.
Set goals and track progress
In school, students often have clear goals to work towards. Whether it’s earning good grades, participating in extracurricular activities, or preparing for college, there’s always something to strive for. These goals give students a sense of direction and purpose.
Similarly, setting goals at work can help bring back that excitement and motivation. Think about what you want to achieve in your job and break it down into smaller, actionable steps. Create a plan and set deadlines for yourself. As you make progress towards your goals, track your achievements and celebrate your successes.
Ask good questions
Just like a good student, it’s helpful to show up to work with a sense of curiosity and a willingness to learn. You don’t know everything, and that’s okay! That’s why it’s important to ask good questions, especially when you’re in meetings. I cover ways to gain more clarity through poignant questions in this blog post (which also includes a video).
Read
In school, we have many opportunities to read (whether textbooks or novels in English class), and many kids tend to read on their own. But as an adult, reading can become a low priority. That’s unfortunate because reading is a great way to expand your knowledge and stimulate your mind. It can also help you stay updated on industry trends and developments.
Consider incorporating reading into your daily routine. Set aside some time each day to read books, articles, or blogs related to your field or other areas of interest. You can also join book clubs or online forums to engage in discussions and share insights with others.
Socialize
One of the best parts of going back to school is reconnecting with friends and classmates after a long break. The social aspect of school can be uplifting and energizing.
To bring this element into your workplace, make an effort to connect with your colleagues. Take the time to have coffee or lunch together, engage in conversation, or collaborate on projects.
By adopting a back-to-school mentality and implementing these strategies, you can infuse new energy and enthusiasm into your work. Don’t be afraid to embrace the excitement of learning, setting goals, asking questions, and exploring new ideas. Keep growing and evolving in your professional journey.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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July 26, 2023 4 Unique Challenges for Female Leaders (and how to overcome them)

Since the start of my career, women have made incredible strides in the workplace. They are CEOs, leaders, entrepreneurs, innovators. They have fought for greater recognition, higher pay, and better opportunities. But despite our achievements, we still have a long way to go to truly achieve gender equality in the working world.
Let’s talk about 4 workplace challenges that are unique to women and how to overcome them. This article is meant to both empower female workers and increase awareness for male employees so they can become better advocates and allies.
Being Heard
It’s great to have a place at the table, but it doesn’t do much good if your thoughts and ideas are never heard. Women often complain of being interrupted or talked over during meetings. In some cases, their ideas may be initially dismissed but later stolen by a male colleague. Stacey Vanek Smith, author of Machiavelli for Women, says, “Getting interrupted is a small thing, but it’s also a powerful symbol of status in a workplace. On a more practical note, being heard is key to everything. If nobody hears your ideas, how are you going to get those ideas off the ground?”
What to do?
I have found that one of the best ways to bounce back from an interruption is to react right away. If a colleague cuts you off, speak up and say something to the effect of, “Hold that thought, Mike. I’m eager to hear your ideas, but I wasn’t quite finished. As I was saying…”
This approach keeps the interaction positive while turning the attention back on you.
If the interruptions are consistent and it’s difficult to handle them on your own, consider enlisting the support of an ally. This person can interject on your behalf with something like, “Just a sec, Mike. I liked what Gloria was saying and I don’t think she was quite finished. Did you have something to add, Gloria?” Strength in numbers really does work.
Getting Passed Over for Promotion
Though the number of women in leadership roles has increased over the past few decades, they are still underrepresented. According to a 2022 McKinsey survey, for every 100 men promoted to a first-level management position, only 87 women are promoted. And the discrepancy is even worse as we climb the ranks. As of this year, only 10 percent of Fortune 500 CEOs are women…and that’s a new record high. Far too often, women are passed over for promotion because of unconscious bias or because they are not assertive enough in promoting themselves.
What to do?
If you feel you are being passed over for a promotion, take a hard look at your performance and track record. If you truly are excelling in your role, seek out feedback from your manager and ask what you need to do to make yourself a strong candidate for promotion. Be assertive in selling your accomplishments and the value you bring to the company.
It’s also important to have mentors and sponsors who can advocate on your behalf and provide guidance on career development. Seek out women in leadership positions and build these relationships.
Balancing Work and Family
Women often face the challenge of balancing work and family responsibilities. This can be especially difficult when there are no policies in place to support work-life balance. Women are often the primary caregivers for children and elderly relatives, and this can make it difficult to balance a demanding career with family responsibilities.
What to do?
One of the most important things you can do is communicate with your employer about your needs. Ask about flexible work arrangements such as part-time work, job sharing, or telecommuting. If these options are not available, consider negotiating a flexible schedule that allows you to adjust your hours or work from home when necessary.
It’s also helpful to build a support system outside of work that can help you manage family responsibilities. This can include family members, friends, or professional resources such as daycare providers.
Receiving Lower Pay
The gender pay gap has closed somewhat in recent years, but it still exists. The Department of Labor reports that women are paid 83.7 percent of what men are paid, and that figure is even worse for women of color. Even when a woman has the exact same job title and responsibilities as a male counterpart, she is often paid less. This can be frustrating and demotivating, but there are steps you can take to address this issue.
What to do?
If you suspect you are being paid less than your male counterparts, do some research to find out what others in your industry with similar experience and qualifications are being paid. Use this information to negotiate for a higher salary.
It’s also important to speak up about pay disparities and advocate for yourself and your colleagues. Don’t be afraid to have candid conversations with your employer or HR representative about this issue. Organizations that are committed to diversity, equity, and inclusion should be willing to address pay disparities and take steps to close the gender pay gap.
It’s important for women to be proactive in addressing the challenges they face. This includes being assertive in meetings, seeking out feedback and mentorship, communicating with employers about work-life balance, and advocating for fair pay. By taking these steps, women can work towards achieving greater equity and success in the workplace. Remember, progress takes time and effort, but it’s worth it—both for your wellbeing and to pave the way for future generations.
MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE.
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE.
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