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December 18, 2024 When a Change is on the Horizon

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For the past couple of years, I have been toying with the idea of retirement. However, whenever I think my plan is in place and I’m ready to begin heading toward the “off ramp,” I gain a new client or speaking gig, or an exciting new opportunity lands in my inbox. So, I delay a while longer. However, a part of me is realistic about the inevitable path ahead, so I’m taking actions that will help me when this moment of transition comes: I’m observing, listening, and learning from others.

Technically, I retired once already when I left my leadership role at 3M. That time was different, though, because I was still fairly young and had some vague plans for starting a second career—the coaching business that became UXL. This time feels more final.

So, what have I learned from observing and listening to those who have made a leap into retirement? These are a few of my takeaways:

Reframe Your Identity

For many of us, our identity is closely tied to our work. When you meet someone new, it’s common to ask, “What do you do?” Once you retire, that question can seem daunting or even embarrassing. No one wants to say, “Well, I used to be…” You can, however, take ownership of your identity and reframe it. For example, instead of saying “I’m retired,” you could say, “I volunteer at the local animal shelter and am spearheading a project focused on children’s literacy.” This allows you to focus on the activities and interests that are important to you, rather than defining yourself by what you used to do. Embracing a new identity can help you feel more purposeful and engaged in this next chapter of your life.

Find Your Community

When you step away from a workplace, you end up losing an entire group of people that you regularly see. This may leave a gap in your social life, and you might feel like you’re missing something, especially if you regularly interacted with your work team or colleagues. Building a community outside of the office is essential. These could be friends, a book club, a community volunteer group, a church committee, or any type of organization that allows you to connect with others. Finding ways to build new relationships and stay socially engaged can help ease the transition into retirement.

Maintain a Routine

Many retirees find that maintaining a routine is crucial for their well-being. Without the structure of a traditional workday, it’s easy to feel adrift. Establishing a daily or weekly schedule can provide a sense of purpose and help you stay productive. This could include exercising, pursuing hobbies, volunteering, or even scheduling regular social activities. Maintaining a routine can help you feel grounded and prevent boredom or a sense of aimlessness. Additionally, I’ve learned that it’s important to leave room for spontaneity and flexibility, so you don’t feel overly constrained.

Stay Active and Engaged

Keeping your mind and body active is crucial. Retirement is an opportunity to explore new interests and expand your knowledge. Consider taking classes, attending lectures, or pursuing hobbies you’ve always wanted to try. It’s also a good idea to stay in motion, which might mean pursuing an active hobby like hiking, cycling, or swimming. Staying engaged can help prevent boredom, provide opportunities to learn something new, and help you stay active and physically fit.

Embrace Flexibility and Adaptability

As you navigate retirement, be open to embracing change and adapting to new circumstances. Your plans and expectations may evolve over time, and it’s important to remain flexible. Be willing to try new things, explore new possibilities, and adjust your routines as needed. Retirement is a journey, and being adaptable will help you make the most of this new chapter.

Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all approach, so be patient with yourself as you navigate this transition. With an open mindset and a willingness to try new things, you can create a fulfilling and meaningful retirement that aligns with your values and interests.

These are just a few of my observations and learnings from people who are thriving in retirement. To me, it is mainly important to maintain an open mindset, have patience, and allow your retirement years to take whatever shape they will. Retirement is not a singular destination, but a dynamic journey that evolves over time. Someday in the not-so-distant future, I will embark on this journey too…but not quite yet.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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November 20, 2024 The Complexity of the Human Experience (and Insights Discovery)

As a career coach and Licensed Practitioner of Insights® Discovery, I’ve had the privilege of working with individuals from all walks of life. Through that work (and from life experiences, in general), it is clear to me that each person is a unique and complex tapestry, woven with a multitude of “colors” that make up their personality, interests, and ways of thinking.

We rarely fit neatly into a single box or category. Rather, we are dynamic—constantly evolving and adapting to the circumstances and challenges that life presents. One day, we might feel social and outgoing, and the next, we might find ourselves more quiet and introspective.

This diversity within ourselves is a testament to the richness of the human experience. We are not one-dimensional, but rather a kaleidoscope of traits, strengths, and weaknesses that come together to form the individuals we are.

The Insights® Discovery Program and the Color Wheel

As I’ve discussed in past blog posts, the Insights® Discovery program offers a fascinating perspective on this concept of our “many colors.” This program utilizes a color wheel to help individuals better understand their dominant personality preferences and how they interact with others. If you’re unfamiliar with the program, these are the basics:

  • The color wheel is divided into four main quadrants: Sunshine Yellow, Fiery Red, Earth Green, and Cool Blue.
  • Each quadrant represents a distinct set of personality traits and preferences, from the outgoing and enthusiastic Sunshine Yellow to the analytical and reserved Cool Blue.
  • Most people will find that they “lead” with one or two of these colors, which tend to be the most prominent aspects of their personality.

However, the beauty of the Insights® Discovery program lies in its recognition that we are not limited to a single color or way of being. In fact, the program encourages individuals to explore and embrace the other colors on the wheel, as they can provide valuable insights and strategies for navigating different situations and relationships.

Stepping into the “Other” Colors

Let’s say, for example, that you identify primarily as a Sunshine Yellow. This means that you are likely energetic, charismatic, and thrive in social settings. You may be the life of the party, always ready with a joke or a friendly smile.

But what happens when the circumstances call for a more analytical, reserved approach? Perhaps you’re facing a complex problem at work that requires a deeper level of critical thinking and attention to detail. In these moments, it can be incredibly valuable to step into your “blue” side and tap into your ability to be more introspective and methodical.

Similarly, if you lead with Cool Blue, you may find that embracing your “red” side can help you become more assertive and decisive when the situation demands it. Or if you’re an Earth Green, exploring your “yellow” qualities can allow you to be more spontaneous and open to new experiences.

The Beauty of Embracing Your Whole Palette

The key is to recognize that we are not limited to a single color or way of being. By embracing the full spectrum of our “colors,” we open ourselves to a world of possibilities. We become more adaptable, resilient, and better equipped to navigate the ever-changing landscape of our personal and professional lives.

It’s important to remember that this process of self-discovery and growth is not a linear one. We may find ourselves gravitating towards different colors at different times, and that’s perfectly natural. The goal is to become more aware of the full range of our capabilities and to consciously choose the “color” that best serves us in any given moment.

Celebrating Your Unique Complexity

In the end, the beauty of the human experience lies in its complexity. We are not simple, one-dimensional beings, but rather a tapestry of different “colors” that come together to create the unique individuals we are. By embracing and celebrating this complexity, we can unlock new levels of self-awareness, personal growth, and fulfillment.

Let us embrace our many colors and step into the full spectrum of our potential. For it is in this journey of self-discovery that we find the true richness and beauty of the human experience.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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November 6, 2024 Choosing Kindness (More Important Than Ever)

In a world that often feels increasingly divided and polarized, the simple act of choosing kindness has never been more crucial. Through both my life experiences and my work as a career/life coach, I have observed the profound impact that kindness (or the lack thereof) can have on our personal and professional lives.

The Importance of Kindness

Kindness is not just a feel-good concept; it is a powerful tool that can transform our relationships, our communities, and even our own well-being. When we choose to be kind, we open ourselves up to deeper connections, foster understanding, and create an environment where everyone feels valued and respected.

In a world that has become increasingly divided, with political and social tensions running high, the need for kindness is more pressing than ever. We have become a nation where civility, good manners, and basic humanity have been overshadowed by the constant need to prove our own point of view or to win at all costs.

The Impact of Kindness

The impact of kindness cannot be overstated. When we choose to be kind, we not only make a positive difference in the lives of others, but we also reap the benefits ourselves. According to an article written by the Mayo Clinic, kindness has positive effects on both the mind and body. The article says, “Kindness has been shown to increase self-esteem, empathy and compassion, and improve mood. It can decrease blood pressure and cortisol, a hormone directly correlated with stress levels. People who give of themselves in a balanced way also tend to be healthier and live longer.”

Kindness is also a mood booster. It can make us happier, reduce stress, and improve our overall mental and emotional well-being. In short, the simple act of choosing kindness can be a powerful antidote!

Practicing Kindness in Everyday Life

Keep in mind, kindness doesn’t have to be grand or dramatic; it can be found in the small, everyday moments that make up our lives. Here are some ideas for incorporating more kindness into your daily routine:

  • Practice active listening and be present with the people in your life
  • Extend grace and understanding when someone is having a bad day
  • Be patient and understanding with service people
  • Practice empathy—attempt to see another’s point of view before passing judgment or responding negatively
  • Refrain from online squabbling. Little it achieved through fighting behind your screen!
  • Offer a compliment, give a few words of encouragement, or give someone a sincere “thank you” whenever it makes sense (consider sending a handwritten card)

In a world that often feels divided and polarized, the choice to be kind can be a powerful act of resistance. When we choose kindness, we are challenging the narrative of “us vs. them” and instead embracing the idea that we are all in this together. Though it’s easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of political and social debates, I’m certain you can find common ground with just about anyone if you just look for it. At the end of the day, many of us care about the same things—our family (and pets), our friends or community, our home, financial security, our career. Keep that in mind the next time you’re with someone who does not share all your points of view or beliefs.

Remember: kindness doesn’t mean that we have to agree with everyone or that we can’t stand up for our beliefs. It simply means that we approach our interactions with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to listen and learn. When we choose kindness, we create space for meaningful dialogue, and we open the door to the possibility of finding solutions that benefit everyone.

In a world that often feels overwhelming and uncertain, the choice to be kind can be a powerful act of hope and resilience. By embracing kindness in our everyday lives, we can not only improve our own well-being but also contribute to a more compassionate and connected world.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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