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November 6, 2024 Choosing Kindness (More Important Than Ever)

In a world that often feels increasingly divided and polarized, the simple act of choosing kindness has never been more crucial. Through both my life experiences and my work as a career/life coach, I have observed the profound impact that kindness (or the lack thereof) can have on our personal and professional lives.

The Importance of Kindness

Kindness is not just a feel-good concept; it is a powerful tool that can transform our relationships, our communities, and even our own well-being. When we choose to be kind, we open ourselves up to deeper connections, foster understanding, and create an environment where everyone feels valued and respected.

In a world that has become increasingly divided, with political and social tensions running high, the need for kindness is more pressing than ever. We have become a nation where civility, good manners, and basic humanity have been overshadowed by the constant need to prove our own point of view or to win at all costs.

The Impact of Kindness

The impact of kindness cannot be overstated. When we choose to be kind, we not only make a positive difference in the lives of others, but we also reap the benefits ourselves. According to an article written by the Mayo Clinic, kindness has positive effects on both the mind and body. The article says, “Kindness has been shown to increase self-esteem, empathy and compassion, and improve mood. It can decrease blood pressure and cortisol, a hormone directly correlated with stress levels. People who give of themselves in a balanced way also tend to be healthier and live longer.”

Kindness is also a mood booster. It can make us happier, reduce stress, and improve our overall mental and emotional well-being. In short, the simple act of choosing kindness can be a powerful antidote!

Practicing Kindness in Everyday Life

Keep in mind, kindness doesn’t have to be grand or dramatic; it can be found in the small, everyday moments that make up our lives. Here are some ideas for incorporating more kindness into your daily routine:

  • Practice active listening and be present with the people in your life
  • Extend grace and understanding when someone is having a bad day
  • Be patient and understanding with service people
  • Practice empathy—attempt to see another’s point of view before passing judgment or responding negatively
  • Refrain from online squabbling. Little it achieved through fighting behind your screen!
  • Offer a compliment, give a few words of encouragement, or give someone a sincere “thank you” whenever it makes sense (consider sending a handwritten card)

In a world that often feels divided and polarized, the choice to be kind can be a powerful act of resistance. When we choose kindness, we are challenging the narrative of “us vs. them” and instead embracing the idea that we are all in this together. Though it’s easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of political and social debates, I’m certain you can find common ground with just about anyone if you just look for it. At the end of the day, many of us care about the same things—our family (and pets), our friends or community, our home, financial security, our career. Keep that in mind the next time you’re with someone who does not share all your points of view or beliefs.

Remember: kindness doesn’t mean that we have to agree with everyone or that we can’t stand up for our beliefs. It simply means that we approach our interactions with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to listen and learn. When we choose kindness, we create space for meaningful dialogue, and we open the door to the possibility of finding solutions that benefit everyone.

In a world that often feels overwhelming and uncertain, the choice to be kind can be a powerful act of hope and resilience. By embracing kindness in our everyday lives, we can not only improve our own well-being but also contribute to a more compassionate and connected world.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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October 23, 2024 Adapting During Difficult Times (5 Ways)

No one is immune to the challenges and setbacks that life can bring. Whether it’s a global crisis, a personal tragedy, or a professional roadblock, we all face rough patches at times. The key is how we respond to these difficult moments. As a career and life coach, I have guided several individuals through periods of uncertainty and change. Time and again, I’ve witnessed the power of resilience, adaptability, and a willingness to pivot.

In this post, I’ll share five essential tips to help you navigate difficult times and emerge stronger than before.

1. Embrace a Growth Mindset

When faced with adversity, it’s easy to slip into a fixed mindset—the belief that our abilities and circumstances are set in stone. However, research shows that adopting a growth mindset can be a game-changer. A growth mindset is the understanding that our skills, talents, and even our life situations can be developed and improved through effort, strategy, and perseverance.

Instead of seeing challenges as insurmountable obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth and learning. Remember: your current circumstances do not define your future.

2. Cultivate Flexibility

Adaptability is a superpower when it comes to navigating difficult times. The ability to pivot and adjust your approach as needed is crucial for weathering life’s storms. Rigid thinking and inflexible behaviors can quickly become liabilities, while flexibility and openness to change can be your greatest assets.

In my experience, it is best to be open-minded and receptive to new ideas. Experiment with different strategies and be willing to let go of what’s no longer working. If you embrace the mindset of a lifelong learner (constantly seeking new skills and perspectives), you set yourself up to thrive.

3. Build a Support Network

No one should have to face difficult times alone. Surround yourself with a network of supportive individuals who can offer encouragement, advice, and a listening ear when you need it most. This could include family, friends, mentors, or a professional coach.

Lean on your support system for practical assistance, emotional guidance, and a fresh perspective. Far too often, we’re afraid to ask for help even if we truly need it. I urge you to have the courage to reach out to others and be a little vulnerable when you need to.

4. Practice Self-Care

When life gets tough, it’s easy to neglect your own well-being. However, prioritizing self-care is crucial for maintaining your resilience and adaptability. Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit, such as:

  • Engaging in regular exercise or physical activity
  • Practicing mindfulness, meditation, or deep breathing
  • Pursuing hobbies and creative outlets
  • Getting enough sleep and maintaining a healthy sleep schedule
  • Eating a balanced, nutritious diet
  • Seeking professional support, such as therapy or counseling, if needed

By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

5. Reframe Your Perspective

The way you perceive and interpret difficult situations can have a significant impact on your ability to adapt and overcome. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of a challenge, try to reframe your perspective and focus on the opportunities for growth and learning.

Ask yourself questions like:

  • What can I learn from this experience?
  • How can I use this challenge as a springboard for positive change?
  • What strengths or resources do I have that can help me navigate this situation?

By shifting your mindset and looking for the silver linings, you can transform seemingly insurmountable obstacles into stepping stones towards a brighter future.

Navigating difficult times is never easy, but with the right mindset, tools, and support, it is possible to not only survive but thrive. By embracing a growth mindset, cultivating flexibility, building a support network, practicing self-care, and reframing your perspective, you can develop the resilience and adaptability needed to overcome any challenge that comes your way.

Remember, tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Believe in your ability to adapt and overcome, and you’ll be well on your way to a brighter, more fulfilling future.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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October 2, 2024 Letting Go of Perfection: Embracing Trial and Error

Many of us are terrified to fail. Whether we’re taking on a new project, giving a presentation, starting a new hobby, or making a major transition, the fear of failure can stop us in our tracks and prevent us from fully taking on the endeavor. But what would happen if we didn’t worry so much about failure? What if we embraced the idea that trial and error is just fine?

How Trial and Error Spurs Innovation

By letting go of the fear of failure, we open ourselves to new possibilities and opportunities for growth. We free ourselves to go out on a limb, get creative, or take paths we might not normally take. This is how innovation and growth happen—when our comfort zones are stretched and we’re willing to explore the unknown.

Embracing trial and error allows us to experiment, learn, and refine our approach. Even if we don’t get it right the first time, each attempt provides valuable feedback and brings us closer to our goal. By letting go of the need for perfection, we can focus on the journey and find joy in the process.

Ultimately, trial and error is not only a powerful tool for personal and professional growth, but also a way to spur innovation, find creative solutions, and push the boundaries of what’s possible. By being open to failure and embracing the learning process, we can unlock new avenues for success and discover unexpected breakthroughs.

What Happens When You Fail?

Failure is a natural part of the human existence, and most of the time we can bounce back from these minor setbacks. Unless you are a NASA scientist or a surgeon, you likely have some room for error! If a presentation is flat or your idea flops, it is usually possible to use these moments as learning experiences. Rather than viewing a failure as an excuse to give up, try reframing it as an opportunity—a chance to grow, learn, and rethink the road ahead.

When you adopt this type of “opportunity thinking,” you can start to see failures as stepping stones rather than roadblocks. Each misstep provides valuable feedback and a chance to refine your approach. By embracing this mindset, you can turn failures into fuel for growth and use them to propel you forward, rather than letting them hold you back. With a willingness to experiment and learn from your mistakes, you open the door to new discoveries and breakthroughs that may have been inaccessible had you played it safe.

When my coaching and speaking business was brand new, I was willing to take on all types of projects, clients, and assignments, even if I suspected they were not the best fit. This allowed me a chance to experiment, to figure out where I thrived and where I fell short. Furthermore, it gave me the opportunity to build my skills, gain experience, and better understand my ideal clients and offerings. While some of those early projects were not a perfect match, they provided invaluable lessons that ultimately helped me refine my business and find greater success. By embracing trial and error, I was able to iterate, improve, and discover new avenues for growth that may have remained hidden had I played it safe from the start.

Keep in mind, mistakes and missteps are not signs of weakness, but rather opportunities to learn and improve. When we approach life with a willingness to experiment and try new things, we cultivate a mindset of curiosity and resilience that can serve us well in all aspects of our lives. Instead of fearing the unknown, let’s approach it with curiosity and a willingness to experiment, secure in the knowledge that even our missteps can lead us to greater achievements.

MARGARET SMITH IS A CAREER COACH, AUTHOR, INSIGHTS® DISCOVERY (AND DEEPER DISCOVERY) LICENSED PRACTITIONER, AND FOUNDER OF UXL. SHE HOSTS WORKSHOPS FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED CAREER OR PERSONAL GUIDANCE. 
CHECK OUT MARGARET’S ONLINE LEADERSHIP COURSE. 

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