Category Archives: Advice from a Life Coach
December 15, 2011 New Yorker – Coaching Not Just for Pro Athletes
By Margaret Smith, UXL
SPEAKER | CAREER COACH | CERTIFIED INSIGHTS DISCOVERY PRACTITIONER
Atul Gawande had been a surgeon specializing in endocrine surgery for eight years when he decided to explore the role that professional coaching could play in his career. This exploration of coaching was described in his article, “Personal Best: Top athletes and singers have coaches. Should you?,” published last October in The New Yorker.
The article examines the way coaching has historically played a traditional role in some fields, while failing to be a standard practice for professional development in others, such as his own medical field.
Initially, Gawande turned to coaching because his progress seemed to plateau. “During the first two or three years in practice, your skills seem to improve almost daily,” he explained. Although he excelled in his field, beating national averages, the surgeon feared that “the only direction things could go from here was the wrong one” because these results, despite their superiority to national data, had ceased to improve.
Instead of accepting that what he’d achieved was the best, Gawande decided to turn to coaching to push his professional career even further.
Despite coaching’s benefits, the surgeon acknowledged that many professionals do not opt for coaching for a number of reasons. “The concept of coaching is slippery. Coaches are not teachers, but they can teach. They’re not your boss—in professional tennis, golf, and skating, the athlete hires and fires the coach—but they can be bossy.”
Professional athletes have long relied on coaches to enable their success, but this model is rarely mimicked in other professions. Gawande notes that the foundation of athletic coaching is a premise that differs from other professional education or training systems. He explains that “coaching in pro sports proceeds from a starkly different premise: it considers the teaching model naïve about our human capacity for self-perception. It holds that, no matter how well prepared people are in their formative years, few can achieve and maintain their best performance on their own.”
Unlike formal education and workshops, the result of coaching on a person’s professional abilities and skills is quantifiable and enormous. The concept of coaching was introduced to a group of public school teachers, and the result when compared with the system’s typical workshop-based strategy was dramatic:
“Workshops led teachers to use new skills in the classroom only ten percent of the time. Even when a practice session with demonstrations and personal feedback was added, fewer than twenty percent made the change. But when coaching was introduced—when a colleague watched them try the new skill in their classroom and provided suggestions—adoption rates passed ninety percent.”
Coaching works because it offers an outside set of eyes and ears. It allows you to be aware of where you’re falling short and can help individuals who feel as though they’ve exhausted everything they know, or feel burnt out and isolated. Coaching also boosts professional satisfaction as you continue to refine your techniques and skills through innovative guidance.
Gawande summarized the radical effect coaching had on his life when he reflect, after his first session with his coach, “That twenty-minute discussion gave me more to consider and work on than I’d had in the past five years.”
Granted, the thought of hiring a coach can be daunting to many professionals who fear exposing themselves to the thoughts and judgments of others. The largest barrier, the surgeon admits, “may simply be the profession’s willingness to accept the idea. The prospect of coaching forces awkward questions about how we regard failure.”
Instead of viewing coaching as a failure to succeed independently, consider it in the context used in pro sports, and opt for coaching as a means of enhancing your skills and professional life.
Tags: Atul Gawande, Benefit of Coaching, Professional Coaching, The New Yorker, Why Hire a Coach?
December 13, 2011 How to Explain your Weaknesses during an Interview
By Margaret Smith
SPEAKER | CAREER COACH | CERTIFIED INSIGHTS DISCOVERY PRACTITIONER
“What is one of your weaknesses?” This is a question we’ve all been asked during interviews. It’s not an easy question to answer. But, because you know it’s coming, you can take the time to prepare a response that is graceful, honest, and effective.
Preparation is your key to handling this question in a way that boosts your impact during the interview. Sharing your challenges and flaws—the very things that make you human—can actually help you to come off as a more human, real person.
Joe Grimm of the Pynter Institute, an organization dedicated to integrity in journalism, suggests that interviewees faced with this question should always be honest, and avoid mentioning character flaws because they seldom change. Instead, mention areas where you’re determined to improve. Consider saying something such as, “I’m not as excel-savvy as I’d like to be, but I’m currently improving my skills through internet tutorials.” Never mention strengths as weaknesses.
As with everything, there’s a reasonable limit to the extent of your honest response to this difficult question. In an article about responding to the “weakness question” published in The Washington Post, Heidi McAllister, a local environmental educator who has hired dozens of professionals into government and nonprofit organizations explains that you should be honest, but don’t sabotage yourself. “No one realistically expects to get brutally honest answers like, ‘I’m below average intelligence and difficult to work with.’”
Even though this question may solicit the skewed truth, employers ask it because it helps reveal “whether applicants possess key qualities such as self-awareness, humility, sincerity, zest, and skill in managing shortcomings and mistakes,” says Washington Post journalist Lily Whiteman.
Don’t overthink your response to the point that you panic and don’t have one. As Whiteman reminds us, the worst responses are “I don’t know” and the comical “I have no weaknesses.”
CareerBuilder, the popular job seeker’s resource, outlines this trying question as an opportunity for applicants to demonstrate that they “can think creatively.” Instead of giving a sterile and lifeless response, consider your weaknesses with an attention to “how you have attempted to overcome them,” then weave these proactive actions into your response.
As a final touch, cater your response to the position and organization to which you are applying. Debra Yergen, author of “Creating Job Security Resource Guide”, recommends job seekers imagine themselves sitting on the other side of the desk. Anticipate the motivation and interests of the interviewer when selecting your response and personal story.
Do you have questions about developing your career, business, or landing the job of your dreams? Would your career benefit from informed advice about finding more customers and building a network that gives back? Contact UXL Today to transform the future of your business or career through guided professional coaching.
Tags: "What are your weaknesses?", How to Answer the Question, How to Explain Your Weaknesses, How to Interview Well, Interview tips from a career coach
December 8, 2011 10 Things to Do AFTER the Interview
By Margaret Smith, UXL
SPEAKER | CAREER COACH | CERTIFIED INSIGHTS DISCOVERY PRACTITIONER
I’ve written and spoken a lot about the tactics for interview preparation and performance that will give you a competitive edge. But there are things you can do after the interview that might up your chances of getting that “We would like to offer you the position” phone call.
These 10 tips for interview follow-up from careerbuilder.com are great reminders of the little steps that can generate huge results:
1. Show that You Are Still Interested:
As I often remind workshop attendees and my coaching clients, you have got to ask for the job at the end of the interview. Make a statement such as, “I would really like to contribute to this company and I hope you select me.” And don’t forget to gather a clear idea of what will happen next in the hiring process. Will there be another interview? When should you expect a call back?
2. Set the Stage for Further Contact:
Don’t let your silence as days pass be interpreted as indifference. Before leaving the interview, find out what the employer prefers in terms of checking in.
3. Be Punctual:
If you’ve made any promises, such as forwarding a list of references, make sure you do it in a timely manner to demonstrate your seriousness and professionalism.
4. Know When to Sit Tight:
If the interviewer requests that you follow up by phone in a week, respect this request. Calling or emailing any sooner could come off as pushy and disrespectful.
5. Send a Thank You Note:
A positive, thoughtful way to remain in an employer’s mind is to send a handwritten thank you note after the interview. I’ve even heard some professionals suggest that bringing a card to fill out in the lobby post-interview to drop at the front desk is a quick and original touch.
6. Send Each Interviewer a Personalized, Powerful Follow-up Letter:
In this letter, include specific references to each person you met and tie your accomplishments directly to the company’s stated challenges, suggests Ford L. Myers, career coach and author of “Get the Job You Want, Even When No One’s Hiring”.
7. Address one of the Company’s Needs:
Companies are interested in hiring people who will not only adopt their tried-and-true business tactics, but who will also answer some of their pressing business challenges. Consider creating a proposal on how you would address one of the company’s weaknesses or areas of possible expansion.
8. Keep Thinking and Learning about the Company:
Don’t stop researching the company and its field just because the interview is over. Continuing to learn gives you something substantial to contribute to any follow-up conversations and demonstrates your interest in the opening.
9. Leverage Outside Resources:
Networking should never stop. “If you have contacts and connections with anyone who might influence the hiring decision, or who actually knows the interviewer, ask her to put a good word in for you,” Myers says.
10. Accept Rejection with Grace:
Never burn bridges when facing the message, “We regret to inform you that we’ve decided to go with another candidate.” Keep your response positive and even consider sending a thank-you email or letter thanking the employer for the opportunity and the follow-through.
Do you have questions about developing your career, business, or landing the job of your dreams? Would your career benefit from informed advice about finding more customers and building a network that gives back? Contact UXL Today to transform the future of your business or career through guided professional coaching.
Tags: Career Coach Advice, How to Interview, Interview Follow-up, Job Hunt Advice, Things to Do After the Interview, What to Do After the Interview

